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“Pull-out” method

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MrsBrown28 · 10/04/2018 17:18

I’ve just come off the pill for health reasons my husband refuses to wear condoms and has decided the pull out method will be ok for now. Has anyone had an nice surprises using the pull out method. I’d secretly be pleased if it failed DH not so much

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LolitaLempicka · 10/04/2018 17:20

It is not very reliable. I would go as far as to say you are both actively trying to conceive. Your DH sounds like an idiot.

ScattyCharly · 10/04/2018 17:20

It will not be effective contraception

gamerchick · 10/04/2018 17:21

You need to tell him that and that it’s on his own head when you get pregnant.

You’ll need to track your cycle quite closely and abstain at fertile times but even then it isn’t bullet proof.

You do need to have a conversation with your dude though.

GummyGoddess · 10/04/2018 17:23

People who use the pull out method are generally called parents, so you might be happy with the consequences! Ask your DH what he expects to happen when it fails?

GetOffTheTableMabel · 10/04/2018 17:23

There is no ‘pull-out’ method of contraception. That’s not contraception, it’s called leaving it to chance.
If you tell him that and he continues to suggest it, he can’t complain if pregnancy results, which it could well do.
If he doesn’t want a child, then he needs to take responsibility for not having one.
His attitude is thoroughly unattractive. What a man-child.

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MrsBrown28 · 10/04/2018 17:24

I’ve him to buy condoms if he don’t wanna baby because I do but he wants to wait a year or so (we already have an 11 and 5 year old) he knows I wouldn’t be upset if I fell pregnant, I’ve told him I’m not on my pill and to buy condoms and explained that it’s risky maybe he wouldn’t be upset if the inevitable happened 🤷🏻‍♀️

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mimibunz · 10/04/2018 17:24

You will get pregnant.

Invisimamma · 10/04/2018 17:25

It’s worked for us for 3years, but I know my cycle very well and we don’t have much sex (maybe 4-5 times a month atm).

Dp will be getting the snip in next couple of years.

Wolfiefan · 10/04/2018 17:25

If he doesn't want you to get pregnant you need to use actual contraception. It could end badly if you do get pregnant. You could be thrilled and he could walk. Bad idea.

limitedscreentime · 10/04/2018 17:25

Unless he is secretly hoping for an accident too!

I'd pile on the comments - I'm so glad we've decided to use this method - we could have a baby this time next year 😍😍. Wouldn't that be lovely!!

And make sure he know abortion is not on the cards.....

expatinscotland · 10/04/2018 17:26

It's not a method of contraception.

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MrsBrown28 · 10/04/2018 17:27

He’s VERY aware there’s a risk and and I would NEVER EVER abort so on his head be it. Def agree with piling on the comments though will be putting that into to practise 😆

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AlonsoTigerHeart · 10/04/2018 17:27

This is the outcome of the pullout method

Dont do it

“Pull-out” method
Enwi · 10/04/2018 17:29

If you’d be happy if it fails and you make sure he understands that it is very likely to fail, go for it! As others have said it isn’t really a form on contraception.
Even if his pre cum was 100% void of any sperm, from my experience the chances of him never leaving it a second too late are pretty low.

ChilliCheeseMama · 10/04/2018 17:31

Is this a joke or something OP 😂😂

TheyMostlyComeOutAtNightMostly · 10/04/2018 17:34

It is a method of contraception - insomuch as it’s noticeably less likely to result in pregnancy than just plain shagging. But it’s really not a very reliable one.

If he’s 100% cognisant of the consequences of failure, and given that you’re only using it for spacing before having the next child which you both agree that you want then why not? Unless you’d end up homeless or something if the baby came early.

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MrsBrown28 · 10/04/2018 17:37

Def wouldn’t end up homeless. We both work we have our own home and are financially stable but my husband is a worrier and wants to be better prepared in that he wants savings so that we could have a decent holidays when on maternity leave etc. He wouldn’t wanna just get by

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Wolfiefan · 10/04/2018 17:43

On his head be it?
No. You sound like you want a baby and he doesn't. Having a child in that situation could result in the break up of your relationship. Deliberately putting a child in that situation is stupid.

Addictedtohavingbabies · 10/04/2018 17:47

It worked for me for 6 months until I decided to actively conceive. And only during my non fertile stage which made it more reliable. I used condoms during my fertile stage. I am like clockwork so I am 100% sure.

Blaablaablaa · 10/04/2018 17:47

We've used this method for 5 years and only conceived when he stopped pulling out. I track my periods religiously and you could set a clock by my periods. However, were both aware it's not 100% reliable and would be happy if I happened to get pregnant.

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MrsBrown28 · 10/04/2018 17:49

It’s no secret that I want a baby he’s fully aware of that. I’ve told him to wear condoms I told him I’m not on my pill(due to health reasons not trying to get pregnant without his say so) he decided to use the pull out method even after I told him to use a condom and that it’s still risky so yeah on his head be it.

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MrsBrown28 · 10/04/2018 17:50

For the record he does want another baby just not yet he’s also aware of the risks of the pull out

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Snog · 10/04/2018 18:15

Just enjoy having sex, no point faffing with pull out imo!

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MrsBrown28 · 10/04/2018 18:20

Snog- I wish! I want a baby but my husband says in a year or so. I have no problem waiting a year but using a risky method has my waiting for my period to come and wondering if I’m pregnant all the time 😆

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Bonsai12345 · 11/03/2019 21:52

We had our little girl in 2015 since then I have been on no contraception and nothing has happened. My partner and I have separated and I rekindled with an ex recently and have a few questions, sorry for the TMI , we had sex twice one night with the pull out method and once the next night same method. My last period started on 28th Feb, it's usually the 1 of the month I've been looking up that I would be fertile the 8th and 9th and ovulate on the 12th I had sex in the 8th and 8th would the pull out have been effective ? We have spoken about it and feel we would both be happy if I was and is there anyway to increase the chances of it happening as it was a fertile window but not ovulation day ? We live far apart so it's not easy to do the obvious and have more sex .