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Anyone else not on any permanent contraception?

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tiamariaxxx · 21/12/2013 22:18

Just wondering i dont know what to do regarding contraception. At moment im having a break from been on anything i was taking cerezette up until August but i got pregnant on it for the 2nd time unfortunately i miscarried and since we have just been using condoms, pulling out and a couple of times been carried away and taken a chance and takn the morning after pill both times, obviously cant carry on like this so not sure whats best. Ive been on various things over the years but always reacted badly to them (eg mass weight gain, head aches, high blood pressure, erratic periods, moodswings) I have found cerezette best for symptoms but obviously pregnant twice is not good so not sure really.
The only 1 im against trying is the coil just dont like the thought of having it and heard too mant bad stories

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StarlightMcKingsThree · 21/12/2013 22:21

I'm also in this position. Can't cope with the side effects of most of them and dh won't have the snip. Condoms are okay I guess but not ideal.

Nothing is ideal.

I was thinking about the copper coil but have an issue with insertion without pain relief.

StarsUponThars · 21/12/2013 22:25

We use condoms. Although I do feel nervous when I read about all the DCs born after condom failures on here.

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tiamariaxxx · 21/12/2013 22:42

We have discussed him getting snip and me getting sterilised and we decided that we would leave it for now as its a bit too permanent were both only 28 and even though we have 4 kids and deffinately dont want anymore in the near future it just seems so deffinate.

Ive been going on my estimated ovulation dates for the times we pull out other than that its condoms but its a pain in the bum as im sure you all know. Ive tried speaking doctors but they seem obsessed with te coil for some reason

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StarsUponThars · 21/12/2013 22:47

I was on the pill for a long time previously, I wasn't great at remembering to take it, and I gained weight. Then I had a baby. And since then we've used condoms.

It is a PITA. I don't know a lot about other forms of contraception TBH. I should find out. We might not have completed our family yet though.

StarsUponThars · 21/12/2013 22:49

Just to clarify, I stopped taking the pill before trying for a baby.

Onetwothreeoops · 21/12/2013 22:52

The coil doesn't suit everyone but there are a lot of women around that it does suit. It has a lot of positives. I think at the very least you should talk to a GP or HCP about it. It may well be the best choice for you. Please don't rule it out because of others experiences.

RhinestoneCowgirl · 21/12/2013 22:52

Have you thought about implant?

I had one and didn't like it hugely as it rather killed my libido, but many women think it's great. And unlike pill you can't forget to take it.

We're using condoms while DH screws up courage to have the snip (we're mid to late 30s tho, so bit older than you)

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tiamariaxxx · 21/12/2013 22:54

Had implant too after my eldest couldnt wait to get rid of it

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DoingItForMyself · 21/12/2013 22:58

I read a thing about contraception usage and failure rates. When done properly the natural method (knowing your cycle, withdrawal, avoiding fertile times) is actually no les effective than most other methods.

Like you, I sometimes get carried away at times when it would be safer not to, have had a couple of scares when I've been a couple of days late, but certainly it's no less reliable than condoms (I'm looking at you DS1!)

I tried cerazette and bled continuously for 5 months, it was a very effective contraceptive as I was so bloated and the bleeding meant that sex wasn't really on the menu for most of that time!

DP wilts at the very thought of objects to condoms and while I don't want to take any other hormonal types, I'm not opposed to the copper coil, but apparently it can also cause heavy or irregular periods, pain etc so I don't see why I should put myself through that for the sake of our sex life when DP gets away scot free!

Don't know what ton suggest in your position, it's a tricky one isn't it.

Sharaluck · 21/12/2013 23:29

We used condoms/withdrawal for 7 years with no pregnancies. Basically all intercourse is with condoms and he withdraws every time before ejac. As I said no preg scares and we are both fertile as fall pregnant straight away when ttc.

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tiamariaxxx · 21/12/2013 23:33

Sharaluck - Aw thats good its worked so long.

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Philoslothy · 21/12/2013 23:34

We don't , but I am expecting number 5 Smile

AnythingNotEverything · 21/12/2013 23:39

We've used condoms for years as none of the hormonal stuff agrees with me.

We got pregnant on month one of TTC and just resuming our sex life. Slightly terrified that we're super fertile and no ready for another baby just yet!

I'm starting to raise the notion of DH having the snip. He's still at the "absolutely no way" phase.

goodasitgets · 21/12/2013 23:39

Persona will work out ovulation times etc if you are regular. I used it with no issues for 18 months or so

I can't remember who said above about coil and pain relief Blush but my local family planning has a lovely woman that does coil fitting and she used local anaesthetic gel for me, was petrified (as in sobbing) and I didn't feel the insertion at all

GirlWithTheDirtyShirt · 21/12/2013 23:42

We've used condoms/withdrawal for 5 years with just one planned pregnancy. I wouldn't believe me if someone else said that was actual contraception.

Sharaluck · 21/12/2013 23:43

Male Condoms + Withdrawal = 99.92% effective with perfect use - 95.95% effective with typical use

I had a very quick google and found this stat from this teen sex advise website (not sure how reliable).

m.scarleteen.com/article/reproduction/the_buddy_system_effectiveness_rates_for_backing_up_your_birth_control_with_a_s

StarsUponThars · 21/12/2013 23:44

Girl, do you mean condoms and withdrawal at the same time?

Sharaluck · 21/12/2013 23:45

girl I'm confused, do you mean you had just the one pregnancy, as in no accidental pregnancies?

duchesse · 21/12/2013 23:55

We're using just condoms but I am nearly 46 so chances of pregnancy pretty slim, although not impossible, hence taking no chances.

GirlWithTheDirtyShirt · 22/12/2013 00:03

Sorry, yes. I mean we use condoms or the withdrawal, and have only had one pregnancy (which was planned) in five years.

chiquitaloca · 22/12/2013 22:18

I am using the diaphragm and would recommend it if you do not have a retroverted uterus. I have it and it's literally a pain to get it on.

TheFuzz · 25/12/2013 03:20

Just to add if looking at permanent surgical options, make sure you are fully versed about complications. It's not nice and will ruin your sex life. I'd wished we stuck with condoms. I'm up in the small hours of Christmas Day in pain following the snip 15 months ago. Just trying not to take the tramadol as I'll be spaced out over Xmas Day.

SillyMillyOnAHilly · 27/12/2013 00:52

I was sterilised after we decided that we didn't want anymore kids. It's keyhole surgery, really quick and felt like light period pain. I know some people have more pain than me though. It's fantastic not ever having to worry about getting pregnant. It's liberating.

randomAXEofkindness · 27/12/2013 01:28

We've used the withdrawal method for the last year and a half, and haven't made any 'mistakes'. It isn't any less effective than other forms of contraception as long as your dp is able to/will control ejaculation. You said you 'got carried away' - could you possibly just decide not to get carried away? Grin

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tiamariaxxx · 27/12/2013 08:43

Id forgot about this thread :)

I was just browsing the boards as wanted to ask about sterilisation. Ive been thinking last few days that i deffinately dont want anymore kids weve always been open minded to having more but i want to get back into work and get a bit of freedom back, i know sounds selfish. OH would love more but its easier for men to say this

Just wondering of peopes good and bad experiences

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