Embarrasing problem, trying to concieve.

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We have six year old dd who I had to take Clomid to concieve due to PCOS. I've now taken all the Clomid I can safely take in a life time. I'm now looking at changing my diet and excercising more to hopefully beat it naturally. I'm taking Pregnacare conception and Olmega 3. I can actually feel when I'm ovulating, so that helps.
The problem is, my DH and I very rarely have sex. Obviously now we are TTC, we are having it more often, but when I say that I think I might be ovulating, he can't seem to get an errection. He says he feels too much pressure to perform when he's not in the mood or just dosn't feel like it. I've tried not telling him I'm ovulating and just that I fancy it and still he has problems. It has to be when he wants to, and that isn't very often at all. He has always hasd a low sex drive, but when we were TTC our daughter he usually mannaged to do it frequently. He does really want another baby but I think he feels under too much pressure as I very rarely ovulate, so when I do, it really must be acted on if we ever stand a chance of having another baby.
I'm not really sure what I should do about this. Is there anything he should take or that I could do to help?
Thanks in advance.

I am actually ovulating now. Too much info, I know. He's at his mums house getting our daughter to sleep as she wants a sleep over with her cousens.
I think another factor is that he's worried he won't be able too and feers feeling inadequate. I've always tried to make sure he dosn't feel like this and have always been very matter of fact.
I just feel quite sad that my rare ovulation is a wasted chance.

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Hi,

Here's a link to a thread i started because of a similarish problem!

It's a bit TMI!

Be warned!!

[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1150615-TTC-DH-performance-problems-common-or-not]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1150615-TTC-DH-performance-problems-common-or-not

Thank you LauraSmurf. It's good to know it's not just us. I've thought about the syringe method but worried it'd damage the sperm and cause birth defects. (Probubly a silly thing to think).

Can you DTD before you ovulate? So less pressure on DH. When you ovulate is cutting it a bit fine? Maybe have sex which isn't penetrative every now and then too? Which is def for fun!

The problem with telling your OH to "do it now" is that it takes all the spontaneity out of it, and he will feel under pressure to perform. Could you be a little more subtle about it and try not to just concentrate on your fertile time?