ballet show Q would you say something?

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My kid will be in a ballet show this Christmas. Routine is a professionally made costume from Weissmans or Paul Wright etc. Everyone has been given their costumes this week, we pay over 50 pounds for them and get to keep them.

My daughters peers have been given something that looks like this
www.weissmans.com/weissman_costume_collection/9495.aspx?position=12

and this
www.weissmans.com/weissman_costume_collection/12229.aspx?position=13

all costumes come complete with hairpieces, gloves etc

Today my kid was handed a polyester waistcoat and trousers that has been stitched by someone at home (don't think they are well made both of them are literally 2 pieces of fabric stitched together they have not been hemmed or have seams just a raw stitch edge)

I'm actually fuming and almost at the point where I want to say she can't go on stage dressed like that when everyone else will be so different.

Would you say anything if so how would you put it?

I'm trying to contain my inner dance Mum for the sake of my kid but quite frankly I'm struggling!

I disagree. If a child is told they're doing a princess dance and will get to wear princess costumes and then find out they are one of a small group not being princesses it could be quite heart breaking. Nobody would be encouraging them to have a meltdown. Of course a lot of children would find this emotion difficult to manage. They're children and not necessarily terribly mature.

I agree that some children might find this emotion difficult to manage, but it's our job as parents to help them deal with little disappointments like this. That's how they develop resilience.

OP, I think you have a valid point about the value for money, and it wouldn't be unreasonable to query this with the dance teacher. However, I can't help but feel that you're also disappointed about your child being an urchin rather than a princess! I think you need to let go of this bit as you will sound a bit precious if you appear to be complaining about that. The children are learning dance, not fancy dress/princess games. The dance that has been choreographed has urchins in it. Some kids need to be urchins. That's just the way it is.

Yes of course but it doesn't happen instantly.

Most girls that age would be a bit gutted to be the urchin and I can see why you don’t want to pay £50 for some rags. I saw a youth ballet production a few weeks ago and was wondering how the girls that played boys felt about it. They had good dancing parts and were noticeable but had rubbish costumes in comparison to the girls in beautiful tutus. If I had that thought as an adult, I’d have thought that would be heightened for young children.

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