Thoughts please

[Thoughtsaremyown]

I have been to see a male sports massage therapist twice, and whilst having a massage, he asked me if I wanted to go for a coffee afterwards. Is this normal?
Also aftef the massage my hair was a bit messy and he moved a piece of hair out if my face. Is this normal. Lastly he was asking me about my work, and do I take a break. Where do i eat. I explained I am really bad for not taking a break and eating at my desk. He said I could always come and sit with him and eat my lunch on the rooftop of his building.
He also commented on my clothing as I was in work clothing. He said you come for a massage dressed like a princess.
Is he just a genuinely nice guy, or being overly nice.

Very obviously not normal - at best unprofessional and at worst predatory. I wouldn't be returning.

No, this is not normal in my experience, and what he did was unprofessional.

Are you interested in him? In that case, then don't mix the two, as its a conflict of interest.

I wouldn’t be returning.

No.

This is not normal I get sports massages from someone I know through a running club, so we chat friendly-like, but what you describe goes way further.

I see two possibilities
a) he's a nice guy flirting with you (even at risk of his professional reputation, because it is actually wrong. But do you feel a spark?)
b) he's a creep who tries it on with clients.

I lean towards b, btw, as I doubt very much someone would inspire the level of attraction just from being an occasional client

But whichever of those scenarios you think is more likely, you need to stop getting massages from him.

Meet him for lunch if you want to spend time with him to find out if you fancy him. Don't see him again if you don't.

I am actually in a relationship and have two children. I'm also over 40.
He has been helping me out with fitness. Hes been sending me a list of exercises to do. He's also a PT.

Questions about work, sitting & eating are OK, but not invitations to coffee, eating lunch with him.

Trust your gut.

So, a bit of an update.
I went to his home address for my third massage, as he doesn't live too far away and evenings are better for me.
Anyway the massage at points was sensual. How he had my arm positioned at certain points meant my palm was around his waist, and placed over his Bicep and tipple. My palms did come into contact with his skin too. When he had finished, he left me to relax, then returned. As i had placed my arms under my head and my head was turned to the side he then moved my hair out of my face and massaged me again. The whole massage was about 2hrs. I'm not going to lie, there definitely was some sexual attraction there.
Fast forward, he has been messaging me alot since then. Last night he was sending me pictures of him in shorts and asking me to choose which colour he should wear. You could clearly see the outline of his manhood in the pictures. At this point I decided to completely block him. My family are my world and would not do anything to destroy that.
I do however reel really shit at the minute. I haven't been sleeping properly at all. At one point this person was all i was thinking about.
I guess in a way the attention kind of made me feel good.
I really wish I hadn't if net him 😕

Definite creep. This is one reason I always go for women PTs, yoga teachers etc.