Rude PT?

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I attend a gym class regularly with a male personal trainer who leads it. Every week he will greet other women in the class and help them put away the weights at the end and then just not acknowledge me. Or he will assist them with movements and exercises but won’t do this for me. These women are all age ranges/ fitness abilities. I have tried to be polite but it seems like a reoccuring thing and Im very confused.

I have lost weight my bmi is 21 now and been there for a year but feel self conscious that maybe he doesn’t think i should attend the class?

Please can anyone shed some light if this has happened to you? Do PTs favour ‘fitter’ attendees or am I overly sensitive?

I had a PT start doing this to me. It was nothing to do with my size or ability or anything. Everyone knew he had his favourites. I think some PTs forget that they're doing a job not behaving like they're in a social situation. It just means he's crap at his job rather than any reflection on you. Is there a manager you can mention it to? At my gym the manager (who treats everyone beautifully) would want to know if anyone was being treated like this.

Have you asked him for help? It might be that he doesn’t think that you want or need it rather than anything more personal?

It may be him. It may be you. It may be a combination. It's hard to tell from your description. I can say that in my own case I used to be regularly ignored by every PT in our gym (I don't do much in the way of classes), even by the manager, but that was at a time when I was terrified of the gym, hated my size and was totally unconfident. I gave off every impression of being there under sufferance and not wanting attention and they picked up on that. If I ever asked for help or made conversation they were totally fine, bar one who was just generally unfriendly and left quite soon.

I think it's difficult especially in a class where you could have 20 or more people. Maybe they're more vocal about needing help, maybe he knows that they can't do something as they've told him before.

Have you asked him for help? Have you tried to have a conversation with him? Maybe arrive early one day and ask him for help with something or just have a chat to him about the weather or how busy the gym is.