Partner doesn’t understand how I feel about exercise

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Does anyone else’s dh not seem supportive of their exercising?
I’ve always tried to keep fit and been to gyms over the years - dh has always passed the odd negative comment but not much and I just ignored it.
The last year I’ve started running, well it’s a slow jog/ walk, and whilst he says he’s supportive he doesn’t seem it. He always passes comment and says things like ‘oh you’re obsessed’ and lots of eye rolling huffing about. He hates when I talk about it and that I get up early to do it- but I have to as with kids and work id not end up getting out?
Is it just one of those things I’ll have to put up with? I’ve tried talking to him but he just says I always support you- but actually it feels like the opposite!
It’s so tricky as I find it hard to motivate myself as it is so when someone makes you feel guilty for going the temptation to not do it is strong.
Oh and one thing to mention is I broke my foot/ badly sprained my ankle two years ago, just by falling down one step at home, so he says he worries about me? Is it that or is he just being a bit of a knob?

@OrangeBananaFish

I'm into running and exercise while DH isn't. I never get any of that reaction from my DH. He tells me to enter races and he tells me I should run/gym because he knows I enjoy it. Over the last 9 years that I've been running I think I can count on one hand the times when he's politely requested I not do a parkrun/race whatever, but those times was for a genuine reason (family event etc). Sounds like he is just trying to make it difficult for you. Just carry on what you're doing and enjoy yourself.

I’d love for my dh to be like this but I think I need to accept he isn’t going to be, and not let it bother me. He’s generally a lovely and caring guy so I guess that’s why I expect him to support me with my exercising but if it’s not meant to be I’ll just ignore his attitude! Thank you

OP your Oh is simply a knob.
I am heavily into yoga- have been for years, daily practice and several classes a week.
OH does no exercise, but totally supportive of me. Sat/Sun morning we have a few hours together- he will drop me off, do some shopping, pick me up and we have breakfast or coffee.
I never push him to come along and he is always respectful of my need to exercise.
WE are different people in a happy relationship.

@GreatAuntEmily

He's annoyed you are enjoying time without him, leaving DCs with him, choosing to do sport rather than being around pandering to his needs.

I'm not sure it's this. I can't help wondering whether it is just that he feels like you are showing him up by exercising, and it is making him feel like a lazy slob. And nobody wants to be made to feel like that.

can't help wondering whether it is just that he feels like you are showing him up by exercising, and it is making him feel like a lazy slob. And nobody wants to be made to feel like that.

Well, yes, but let's face it that is very easily remedied.

Can you not just have the sentence 'That's not very supportive' at the ready? If you've had to say it to him several times throughout the week, then when you talk to him about it he tries to say 'But I'm always supportive of your keep fit, dear', it won't ring true.

It sounds like you're not even pointing out to him what he's doing.

You absolutely don't have to put up with this, but you will need to communicate with him or he'll just keep doing it.

Thank you all.

I’ve called him out on it previously but might not have been in the most constructive way. I mentioned it again this week when he made a negative comment and he actually thinks he’s being supportive?! I’ve told him clearly that just saying he’s supportive doesn’t mean anything if he’s behaving and saying things which show he isn’t. It seems to be a mixture of him feeling a bit insecure but also being a knob. I need to reassure him but stick to my guns and do my own thing such as keep running. It’s a good job he’s great in most other ways

I need to reassure him but stick to my guns and do my own thing such as keep running

He is being unsupportive of you and your response is that you need to reassure him? There is a flaw in your plan...

When I mean reassure I mean that I stick to my guns and tell him I love him and am not going anywhere but (importantly!) that my running is for me and that he either needs to support it or shut up about it as am still going to do it.

He is very supportive in lots of other ways but agree he’s being a complete knob about my running!

I have to say, like a PP, I wondered how much you are running.

Dc1 is very much into running. And you could argue that we should be supporting him blablabla. And we do.
But the reality is that he is also so obsessed with running that he is planning his days around his run (if we do X and Y, will I still be able to go for my run in the morning? type of thing).
So yes we do tell him ‘he is obsessed’ because tbh he is.

I literally go for less than an hour 3 times a week so def not a massive amount

I thought from your first post you must be a female running version of MAMIL cyclists, leaving him a weekend widow, looking after the children.

Three hours a week is nothing! Just ignore him. Don't react. Enjoy your runs.

I have a friend who's husband was unsupportive of her exercise routine, it gradually became sabotage both in putting obstacles in the way of exercise and food choices. It was one of the major reasons she left him last year and is now the happiest she has ever been and free to make the choices she wants to with exercise and food.

Ooh forgot to add, I run 3 times a week and have recently added 2 gym classes a week as well and my DH is genuinely supportive in both his words and actions.