i need help

[superbagpuss]

I tried really hard over spring, signed up to do a 5k run and went running a lot

after my run I have become a couch potato , I've put on a few pounds, and my eating habits has gone to pot

Im having some big negative life events and emotionally I'm in a bad place, I'm too tired and hot to exercise although I keep meaning too if that makes sense

dh has commented about the lack of exercise and DC have started calling me fat which hurts but they are very young

I need ideas

Right. Panic ye not. How old are your kids. What free time do you have and what kind of exercise do you like and what are your goals. Then let's take it from there. No time like the present.

DT are 5, I work and commute between 7 30 and 5 every day, I'm in a desk job and have to drive to get to work

goal is to tone and lose a stone

I hate running/ jogging

I do have push bike and should use it but its too hot in the evenings ATM

before DT I was a gym bunny but don't have money, time to do that any more

would love to join a evening class but have no friends to go with

Hi you sound quite down at the moment and it's often harder to make the effort to exercise when you feel like that. Do you have a lunch break at work when you could fit in a walk or a swim either on your own or with a colleague? It might be a better time than at the end of the day when you're probably too tired from work.

Also is there any time at the weekend when your DH could have your DC for a bit to allow you to fit something in? If your family seem to think it's ok to call you fat, the least they can do is give you a break. You work hard and you should be respected for that.

HTH

thank you orange, I am very down at the moment

we have been trying to get out at work for a walk with some friends but is a bit hit and miss

Sorry I meant to reply sooner but got pulled away in RL. You do sound down. I think maybe you do need to just focus on a plan that is small steps to make you feel better about yourself. Even if it's just from the acknowledging you are doing something positive you may feel better. Speed walking at lunchtime is prob achievable? Secretly enforced regular breaks from desk to climb the office stairs??? Healthy lunch choices? A pre work, pre kids rising home workout? Fitness blender is excellent and free! A wee bit of yoga/stretching before bed? A quick 15-20 min run whilst dad reads to kids or whilst he sorts dinner? Chucking out session of all the stuff u shouldn't be eating? I used to jog and make kids ride scooters behind me? Maybe just decide on one thing this week and then add another positive change the next?

thank you shoes on

I have downloaded the 7 minute app, which hopefully is one small change

and am trying to take the stairs more often at work

You poor thing, you sound very down. It's really hard when you lose the exercise mojo to get back into it. I know it's easy to say, but exercise is a natural anti depressant and will give you more energy

Running can be dull and it's not really that efficient for losing weight either. HIIT and strength training are much better ways to shed fat and a lot more time efficient. Jillian Michaels workouts are good and lots are free on YouTube. The 7 minute workout is good too but do at least two rounds.

I find that when I exercise I naturally make better food choices so hopefully that should fall into place.

And you don't need to go to a class with friends, find a friendly class and go alone.

thank you for the kind words

And five year olds are old enough to teach not to be mean! Maybe it's time to educate them about healthy eating and exercise. My elder DS is nearly 5 and quite likes doing star jumps and high knees etc with me, we walk a lot and talk about exercise being good for our bodies. Maybe challenge them to races in the park- lots of short runs would be good HIIT.

And recruit DH to help you too- could you do exercise together in the evenings. Got any room for a punch bag? That would certainly help with stress!

I've just started a kettlebell class at the local kettlebell club- it's really friendly and you do a lot of the workouts in pairs so very sociable.

Most of all be kind to yourself. Working full time plus a commute with five year old twins is no joke!