Update here .... I spent a very interesting
90 minutes in a local bike shop this morning.
DH also looked at Bob Jackson frames (frame only supply) and Bob J recommended a local bike shop (only 20 miles or so away from home, they also have Mercians). Amazing place, third generation and the workshop still has the original benches/oak drawers etc.
This man runs the local CTC club, must be about 60 or so and DH (fairly reserved chap) and him were completely on the same wavelength.
They put together a bike spec with lots of mind numbing detail for one like me, down to selecting the particular spoke brand/measurements (this man makes wheels, not sure if that is common or not) - must confess I was slightly bored by the end of it. Much quicker build time - 6-8 weeks frame and 7 days or so to build it. No price as of yet but the EB was actually coming out at about £3k so doubt it will be as much as that.
Phew - big birthday present sorted. Even though DH said lead times didn't matter when considering places with long build times I can see it did.
As for me, I bought a used Dawes Galaxy (1995, would now be a super Galaxy apparently) with the same tubing as DH's new swish one. I wasn't even remotely shopping for a bike today but I thought I deserved it for sitting through it. I wouldn't have considered it before I entered this shop. They had 1950s touring frames in for respray which they were then re-building. It is in VGC but I can see DH encouraging me to change a few things in time.
Good Day - we ended it with a 20 mile ride, in the heat, with inhalers and clarityn on my part.