It's complicated because there are two cultures.
also
as they don’t consider NI part of ‘their’ U.K.
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Unfortunately, I don't think this is just true of Leavers. It must be hard for those from a Unionist background.*
I think many of the Unionist tradition understand either consciously or unconsciously that while they may be staunch loyalists, the people and institutions they are loyal to, do not even notice they exist, except when there is something in it for them.
That something used to be a deep water harbour, close to but away from the 'mainland'
and is perhaps now some votes to throw in the balance at Westminster. Even the votes were taken a bit for granted , was 't there a meeting that had to be interrupted to remind TM that the deal was not yet agreed
TM going on about valuing the union
That would have been during, or shortly after, the negotiations for the ten DUP votes