The EU was doing things that successive governments either couldn't or wouldn't. So the real, tangible benefits that the EU brought to Wales, the NE, etc, could never really be acknowledged let alone credited
Yes, good point. I think it's also true that people in poorer UK areas that received funding might not exactly like the idea of receiving 'charity' from the EU, either. After all, if they belong to a rich country, why should they? Kind of hard to answer.
It raises such a marked difference though between the way the UK sees Europe and how other countries do. I think the UK (up until last week anyway) saw Europe in a very pragmatic, transactional way - What do we put in/What do we get out. Like a bank, or other service.
For people growing up in a poor European country (like me!) it was so, so different. The EU was maybe more like a building society or community centre, but so much more than that. It represented hope, opportunity, investment - the promise that you would be taking for a while but only in order to help you get rich, and then you could become a net contributor again. Despite the recent disasters and their hard line, it has worked for my country and I can't imagine anyone voting Leave ever, in a million years.
There's also the political ideal. The fact of Germany, France and later Poland, all coming together to decide things for their mutual prosperity and benefit. Can you even imagine that, in 1945? Impossible. But it happened.
Now the EU is unique in the world, as a group of countries that help each other prosper, and hold each other accountable to standards of international law and democracy. That is why Turkey cannot enter, and won't until it becomes undemocratic. That is how the EU were able to block the far right in Austria from getting in. This is why the far right in Europe (Marine le Pen, the crazy Dutch guy) are rejoicing over Brexit.
This is the thing that is so precious. And this is what I'm so scared will be broken - years and years of patient diplomacy and goodwill. If the UK wants to leave, of course that's fine, though it will be missed. But the current delaying and prevaricating is so damaging to Europe's unity.
I know I sound mad but I am actually in tears as I write this. I feel so ashamed that I never saw this coming and didn't communicate how I feel about Europe before it was too late.
It will all be OK, I'm sure! I hope. The uncertainty is very difficult and I hope it all gets resolved soon.