Rooner, yes definitely.
If I may give a comparison, I always find it curious that the BBC has in the past been criticised by opposing sides of a story for being biased.
Whilst I think the BBC, DOES have a lot of flaws and does have bias, I find it reassuring when that happens, as it suggests they are doing a fairly good job under difficult circumstances and pressures. (As I say I cavet this heavily, as the BBC still has very heavy bias in its reporting which I am fully aware of)
When this happens it shows something which is interesting: That people tend to view things that show things that don't fully agree with their position as biased against them.
There has been a lot of discussion over the last few days on MN of confirmation bias. I think the above its a sort of form of it.
What was going on, on MN during the referendum debate is easy to spot in retrospect.
Decision making is very much about the logical v rational and the heart versus heart. It was clear that during the referendum, things were getting heated, which is generally a sign that heart is doing well. Again - go with your gut was another phrase trotted out a lot which was a sign leave was ahead. There were few threads which were rational, calm and used phrases like 'on balance' which are more reflective of a head argument winning.
I do think in the heat of it all, and with your own emotive feelings about certain subjects it can be very hard to remove yourself from that, and look at things objectively. I think this is perhaps something I'm going to take from it all.
I'm glad you'd started a thread on the subject tbh. These things still do need to be debated, even if the referendum had passed. Things are far from a 'done deal' unfortunately under the circumstances. Its important for remainers to fully understand and to start seeing Leave as distinct separate groups rather than one. Its part of healing and its part of moving forward from this.
Changing minds is not about saying something once and someone doing an immediate U-turn. Its a general chipping away of reinforced entrenched points of view, until someone gets a slight glimpse of something a bit different and then decides to look a bit further. You can't just simply shove an opinion down someone's throat. You have to let people make up their own minds, and gently persuade them of something different. I think a few of us on both sides of the fence would do well to learn that better. Myself included.