My child, who is in reception, recently had a playdate at a school friend’s house. We have met the parents before and they both gave a good impression but we don’t know them very well.
Tonight my child mentioned she and her friend had given the friend’s dad a massage at the playdate and that he had given them
massages back. From what I understand it was just on the back and my child wasn’t upset / bothered when telling the story but it seems a strange thing to do with someone else’s child - especially if you don’t know them / their parents well.
I tried gently probing what happened before / after to get a better understanding of the context but didn’t get any real answers. I told her we don’t massage people outside our family (as sometimes she walks on my husband’s back as a ‘massage’) and that it’s important people respect each other’s personal space but think she took this as suggesting she shouldn’t have given him a massage rather than the other way around (I did clarify it’s up to adults to remember).
Would you probe further (I’m conscious about the risk of leading questions) and, if so, how? Or just avoid further playdates without my husband or I there?
For what it’s worth, the friend’s parents are DBS checked for their work.