Is it my place to tell her?

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This morning on my way from picking up my DH and dropping him off at work I saw a woman I know walking along holding hands with a dangerous man. She's not a friend exactly but I met her a few times at baby groups a couple of years ago and she has a son that I teach as well.

The man in question is on the sex offender register and has been in prison for physical and sexual assault. He has a restraining order and curfew because he's got a tag. I called his parol office and asked if I needed to tell them as this woman has children and I didn't know if it was a protection issue. He's probably not told her who he is. They said it was her judgement and they can't control who he sees as it's not their job.

I could probably find this woman online or at worst use the contact details we have at work for her. But is it my place to tell her? If it was me in her situation I would want to know but maybe she already does know and doesn't mind. Maybe he's changed. I just know she has young kids and they don't want to get caught up in anything if he's still as horrid as he was before prison.

I would speak to the head teacher or child protection officer at your school and tell them all this. It's not your problem then. You've been through a horrendous ordeal already.

I've been to school and spoke to the deputy head (no one else was about) he said because of the boy we have in school he has a duty to contact SS to make them aware there's a concern for his safety and his two younger siblings (I only knew of one other so the fact there's three kids is even more need). He said they'll take it from here but SS might need to speak to me as I've reported it to school. However he said it's a school issue now and I don't need to do anything. Thank you for your help ladies xx

Blimey that must have been a shock to see him, for you. Take care, you've done the right thing

Good result. Deputy Head sounds fab.

What a horrible situation for you, I'm glad it's been taken out of your hands. I hope you have nice people around to look after you

I'm horrified at the attack on you. It must be awful for you to even see him now, never mind see him with another woman who has children.

You have done really well.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. God, some people are just utter scum.

Thank you for your help everyone. My school have been brilliant and said that they were informed anonymously just so there's no come back for me. Unfortunately the RO I have only precludes him from being within 1000 metres from my home address and my place of work (when my son starts school I can add that too) he lives just outside that area now and that means I am at risk of seeing him. I tend to do my supermarket shop after his 8pm curfew.

Oh my, i some how missed the details of your attack.
What an absolute fucking scum bag
Heres hoping he takes the hint and fucks off far far away so you don't have a shock like that again

definitely tell your head at school as a cp issue. keep your role professional

Just seen your update. How horrific, you've done the right thing

I know this is sorted now, but you could have contacted police with a Clare's Law request, and given them details of his new partner.

They would have assessed situation and contacted her themselves if they believed she was at risk.

You wouldn't have been given any information from them, but you didn't need any anyway.

Heck, the woman needs to be told. But who is the right person? Sorry I cannot advise, but it has to be a professional.
Good wishes to you ànd it was kind of you to care.

I’ve just come across this. I would have done what you have. Do you know if anythunf has happened since you told the head? You are very brave though to do this and I’m sorry for what you have been through. He sounds like a horrible person and I would like to be told. I hope she doesn’t know I’d hate to think she does.