Older folks and their endearing ways . Not.

[Nofeckingway]

Going on from a previous OP that said her ILs drive her insane with their narrow food choices, constant tea drinking and couch sitting .. what little harmless ways drive you mad ?
My father when I was younger and visiting with small DCs would come into the bedroom when he figured we had slept enough to squeegee and dry the windows of any condensation. Happened a lot as we often visited at Xmas time . Just because it was his habit every morning . Also wanted a dinner at 1pm despite us only getting around to brunch at 12. Would turn news on in middle of people talking . Hated anyone sitting in his chair .

But he redeemed himself as he was also a loving generous man and he and my mother would go shopping for nappies, wipes , food for our visits and pick up the tab for meals out .

We all get old, even black people. It’s not the same.

My parents are/were a bit like that. It's not a generational thing, it's a personality issue. They were always like this as far back as I can remember.

Yes, I think some of these complaints are definitely personality issues, rather than to do with ageing.

YABVU to expect to decide when your host serves your meals! You can't get uo when you feel like it and do as you like in someone else's home. No wonder your dad turned up with the squeegee.

Age is a protected characteristic in the Equality Act.

I may start a "lighthearted thread" about irritating habits that folk younger than me have....but it will be just lighthearted bantz of course

Sounds fun, my user name gives an idea of my view of one irritating habit young people have!

Tbh, this is me. Hot food on cold plates just tastes horrible.
I'm sure we all develop these "quirks" as we get older (well, I've done the hot plates thing my entire life)...... I'm just wondering what else I do that might piss off younger people 🤣

Do share then we can all do it!
Reminds me of one of my favourite ever jokes. I first heard it from Marty Feldman
" Now that the warmer weather is coming we should remember that people have their windows open and can be annoyed by a noisy TV or radio.
Another good way is to set fire to their dustbins."

😂

None of this is to do with “older folks” as a group though. It’s individual people’s quirks and foibles, whatever their age.

Oh chill your tits. It’s just a bit of fun. Every older person (say 70+) I’ve ever known gets a bit “set in their ways” and it can be funny. I’m mid 50’s by the way so it won’t be long before I’m wearing purple and saying we have no money for butter.

My Singaporean sister in law does not consider any meal a ‘proper’ one unless it’s hot. So a buffet with loads of cold ham, chicken drumsticks, potato salad, etc. is not a ‘proper’ meal at all.

I warm plates. I am only 43 and my parents very seldom did it, only if it was a big roast and things were out on the table before serving.

My Mum is obsessed with opening curtains first thing of a morning. I live near her and god forbid if my curtains aren't open by 08:00! I have a friend who runs a nightclub, I am single and sometimes I will go down to help out and have a few drinks and a chat, sometimes I have helped clear up and not got in until the early hours, but I still apparently should open the curtains first thing or people will be thinking 'It's like a dilly house!'

Dilly house, anyone?

There’s plenty of women with internalised misogyny. Just look at the mad Trump babes, Gestapo Barbie etc.

Same with plenty of men who make homophobic remarks because they are terrified of facing their own sexual feelings towards men. (See: Andrew Tate)

Ah but OP is not talking about an entire generation. Nor are any of the posters who have actually read the OP correctly and are taking about their OWN experiences with their OWN parents/relatives.

Nobody with an ounce of common sense or humour is saying this is extrapolated to “an entire generation”.

@Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g
What teabags do you use as I’ve found them increasingly weak ( a form of shrinkflation I suspect)
I always go on the premise of one bag per person and one for the pot, so four teabags for three people

This is a forum. No one is being discriminated against. Every single person who has a protected characteristic ages! It binds us all together.

Whatever is cheapest on Ocado! I don't like weak tea but I like very strong tea even less - the sort that makes your mouth pucker up from the high tannin. I let it brew for a few minutes, which is crucial.

I agree.

Yes indeed.I was trying support someone who said that OP was being ageist by mentioning age being a protected characteristic. I think my point got lost somewhere!

No worries ☺️

It isn’t fucking ageist. It’s a gentle joke about funny things our parents do that drive us mad.

Using “discriminatory” like this weakens the meaning of it completely. No one is discriminating against old people. No one is saying they can’t do something or shouldn’t exist or don’t have the same rights as young people or should just fuck off and die are they?

Most of us will be old someday and our kids can laugh at our little foibles, aside from the people with sticks up their arses whose kids would probably never dare crack a smile.

As I have been on MN since this place was all fields, I get to decide which forum works for me.

and I have a long list of people supporting my comment because it speaks the truth, so perhaps you need to stop being prickly and defensive when you know you're wrong.

Someone did a while back. Something about how teenagers think they know everything. It was hilarious and amazingly no one screamed ageism on that thread 🙄.