Need a virtual hug.

[Tolkienista]

I'm honestly not on here for advice, I just want to hear what others are going through because I'm feeling more overwhelmed as each week passes by.
My 95 year old mother is a year into moving into a care home.
She still needs support and help in adjusting to her new way of life.
Luckily she lived independently until 94 years of age and one fall changed her life completely.

I'm one of three, my mother's next of kin .
I don't resent the amount of time I give her, but my siblings leave a lot of it to me, including attending appointments, dealing with visitors, financial affairs etc.

Please share how you feel at the moment.
This post is prompted by a chat I had with my next door neighbour this afternoon.
I offloaded a lot of stuff with her and she told me about three of her friends who are going through very similar experiences with their elderly parents.
Exhausted and overwhelmed at times.
That's how I feel.
Thanks for reading my post, please share your thoughts

Posting in solidarity. I'm an only child & live over 200 miles from my hometown. DM died with vascular dementia in December 2023. Her decline was brutal, she was 84. DF, 92 tried hard to cope when his life fell apart but too many falls & utis have done their job. He is currently in hospital (admitted on Feb 14th) on palliative care. This is Day 10. I'm at the bottom of my barrel. I work fulltime in a job I love but the constant admin and visiting has been like a second job.

I'm so sorry to read your post and when you say you're at the bottom of your barrel, that is as low as you can get.
You're obviously dealing with a lot , the loss of one parent and now the final days of your dad.

The constant admin and visiting really does take a toll.
One of my siblings was shocked when I passed her a diary for the last year with every job I've done, contacts made, emails I've sent etc
Shocked because she's not done anything in that line.
Thanks for sharing your experience.