Is 25 c excessive

[RoseyLentil]

Went to visit MIL yesterday afternoon and her house is so hot 🥵
When she went upstairs i checked the central heating control panel and it was on 25 degrees centigrade 🥵
She'd spent the first half hour after our arrival complaining that she wasn't eligible for the winter fuel payment anymore cos of her getting her husbands pension. Hubby and I were sat in our shirt sleeves.
We're both over 50, I probably run hot due to menopause and MIL if mid 80's. My own parents have their house at 19 and fin go that fine. My mum is early 80's and Dad is 90.
Just looking for others experiences. I always end up with a banging headache when I'm there.

Sorry for typos

Some older people can feel the cold more due to less activity, age, and some illnesses/conditions.

It's not unusual. People do feel the cold more when they're elderly, plus if they are declining cognitiveky they get stressed about radiators going off (because it's hot) and crank it up. Give her a cashmere jumper and a heated throw for Christmas.

Yes. I like my house hot and that's 22/23. 25 can easily be turned down and she'll not notice except in her bill.

My father’s nursing home is warm but about 21/22 rather than 25

I think 19 is a bit on the cold side unless you’re moving around a lot. But 25 is definitely too hot for me!

Same here, 23 is the sweet spot. She probably won't notice if you turn it down

What is this obsession with treating older people as children?

Or is this a Labour Bot trying to convince us all that the rich lazy old people don't deserve the WFA as they are so wasteful.

Why are you looking for other experiences?

I'm 30 with my children and I crank mine up to 23 ish everyday. There was one day though when my son (9) said mum I'm cold can I turn the heating up a bit, I said yeah go on then.

anout 20 minutes later me and OH were sweating buckets, I had a banging headache. Went to turn it down it was on 30 😂

we had a conversation about acceptable heating temperatures after that. 23 is the limit now

I meant 3 children

You can't turn down someone else's heating.

I'd turn it down to 23° and not say anything, she probably wouldn't even notice as it's a marginal drop.

The only person turning the heating down should be the one who pays the bill. My Mum used to feel the cold and I would never have turned her heating down.

My mother keeps her house really warm, but she feels the cold now now that she is very elderly. It's very common.

DH nan’s house is like this, I always have a banging headache after 20 minutes there.

But it’s her house, her bills, her money, and she can more than afford it.

If we’re visiting her I make sure to wear lightweight clothes.

As a PP said, I personally find 19 degrees sufficient but I’m not elderly, I’m up and down the stairs, moving around, etc.

Rude! And unhelpful.
I'm looking for other experiences because my parents are older and have theirs on at a much lower temperature. I don't know anyone that has their heating on at over 20 degrees. And I'm not treating her like a child I didn't say about how hot it was and neither did husband as it's her home and that would have been rude. I just wanted to know if it's common for older people to have their heating up so high.
Looks like it's not uncommon from the helpful responses.

Thanks everyone.
I won't be turning her heating down on the sly but a heated throw or a cashmere jumper might be helpful. I'll ask her if she would like either for Christmas.

I love my heated throw it’s all furry and it’s known as the wolf blanket

I love mine too 💕. I have a blue one and hubby has a red one. They have lovely thick fleecy lining.
I will need to ask what her preference is as she has a little dog that likes to chew stuff and I wouldn't want him to get hurt.

Im the same age as you and have been putting it on at around 22 or 23, I feel the cold and cant get warm.

That would be cool for my mum. She has the thermostat at 27 or 28. I always keep a bottle of water in my car to drink after I've left and dress in layers so I can strip off there. Mum will be sitting in a jumper.

I've no idea what my DM had her thermostat set at but I know we struggled to breathe with the heat in her house - especially in the living room with the gas fire on full. Old people who don't move around much (like my DM was) definitely feel the cold.
MIL who is always on the go, even at 96, has her house at a comfortable temperature.

It is not your place to turn down her heating! If she wants it at 25c - which admittedly would be too warm for me - then that is UP TO HER. She is not a child who should be told what to do.

Old people don't move much so they get cold. Their circulation doesn't work as well as it did. They are generally on medications. If they want the house hot then it's their choice.

If your mum was complaining it was too hot and didn't understand how to fix that problem by adjusting the thermostat you could help but it doesn't sound like there is a problem here.

My friends dad used to have it so hot we'd have sweat running down our backs. And we'd be dead from the tv as we tried to talk.

Yet he'd be in front of the fire and tv with a blanket and a jumper. Complaining it's not that warm in here.
Bizarre. Getting old sucks.

I'd say that's normal for older people. My parents house is like a sauna 🥵