Just like the title really.
Where do you find the time to be you ?
Elderly parents
Elderly parents that need help. 4 teens, work full time. DH stressful Job
AonRudEile · 11/03/2024 22:29
Stonehill · 11/03/2024 22:37
You have 4 teens who can help out with your elderly parents
3luckystars · 11/03/2024 22:39
You can only stretch so far before you snap. Can you take a day off work and just do nothing and don’t tell anyone!
Re elderly parents, if they are anything like the elderly people I know, they don’t care who is doing the running and don’t really mind running you into the ground, they just want what they want. Let them ask someone else to help.
AonRudEile · 11/03/2024 22:44
One in uni. Others too young / learning to drive. We live rurally. So I do a 2 hr round trip at least 2 or 3 times a wk. Just wondering how can i compromise me time
Stonehill · 11/03/2024 22:37
You have 4 teens who can help out with your elderly parents
AonRudEile · 11/03/2024 23:04
I am overdoing it. I know I am to the detriment of my own family. I m not here at home after work many nights. I don't know how school has been for kids, I feel they have been left aside.
I have cleaners in for parents
I do some of the shopping and quick clean of kitchen mid wk..one of my parents v immobile which is putting stress in the "carer parent". The guilt is unreal. One other sibling....but half hearted, can't depend on him to answer phone , lives v close to them
Stonehill · 11/03/2024 23:04
what percentage of the year are they in uni? They are available to help out the rest of the time. I don't really think any teen is too young to help out with grandparents. Its what we all did.
AonRudEile · 11/03/2024 22:44
One in uni. Others too young / learning to drive. We live rurally. So I do a 2 hr round trip at least 2 or 3 times a wk. Just wondering how can i compromise me time
Stonehill · 11/03/2024 22:37
You have 4 teens who can help out with your elderly parents
TheShellBeach · 11/03/2024 23:10
And your sibling has the right idea.
Don't do so much, OP. Let your parents pay for carers.
AonRudEile · 11/03/2024 23:04
I am overdoing it. I know I am to the detriment of my own family. I m not here at home after work many nights. I don't know how school has been for kids, I feel they have been left aside.
I have cleaners in for parents
I do some of the shopping and quick clean of kitchen mid wk..one of my parents v immobile which is putting stress in the "carer parent". The guilt is unreal. One other sibling....but half hearted, can't depend on him to answer phone , lives v close to them
AonRudEile · 11/03/2024 23:04
I am overdoing it. I know I am to the detriment of my own family. I m not here at home after work many nights. I don't know how school has been for kids, I feel they have been left aside.
I have cleaners in for parents
I do some of the shopping and quick clean of kitchen mid wk..one of my parents v immobile which is putting stress in the "carer parent". The guilt is unreal. One other sibling....but half hearted, can't depend on him to answer phone , lives v close to them
AonRudEile · 11/03/2024 23:11
I appreciate your text and thank you. I agree but this involves a 19 yr old male caring for his elderly grandparent and washing/ showering so no.... while he visits often I am for my parents dignity and his, I m not going to to go down that road..
Stonehill · 11/03/2024 23:04
what percentage of the year are they in uni? They are available to help out the rest of the time. I don't really think any teen is too young to help out with grandparents. Its what we all did.
AonRudEile · 11/03/2024 22:44
One in uni. Others too young / learning to drive. We live rurally. So I do a 2 hr round trip at least 2 or 3 times a wk. Just wondering how can i compromise me time
Stonehill · 11/03/2024 22:37
You have 4 teens who can help out with your elderly parents
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