Would love your thoughts on this. The background is there are 4 siblings including me and our 84 year old DM. Generally we all do our bit to help her albeit I do the most with hospital/ doctors /opticians appointments as I'm retired. I found out today that my sister has had a brand new car on Motability and is paying DM what she would otherwise receive in disability payments. She's done this with no consultation with the rest of us. Indeed one of my DBs suggested he could the very same thing a few years ago but same sister strongly objected. DM has early signs of vascular dementia although seems to understand this situation. I feel quite cross as I think my sister has a brand new car to swan about it but won't be doing all the running around that I do. In fact I'm thinking of stepping back and not doing it anymore. I don't want DM to suffer but she saw fit to hide it from me and my DBs so now will have to ask sister to do it all from now on. It's the sneakiness that's got to me more than anything.
Elderly parents
Mrsjayy · 27/03/2023 15:01
Indefinitely doesn't mean that any more unfortunately I had the old mobility allowance for life but didn't get pip automatically I had to jump through a million hoops it was a nightmare despite having the exact same condition as before.
ancientgran · 27/03/2023 12:18
I don't think everyone gets it indefinitely. My DH got it as a lifetime award as there is no prospect of his condition improving but at the time we were told not everyone got the lifetime/indefinite award and he might have to be reassessed from time to time, I think it was every three years but I'm not sure about that.
Babyroobs · 25/03/2023 21:48
People just carry on getting it indefinitely if they've had it before they turned pension age. And DLA was so much easier to get than PIP is now. Personally think it's ridiculous it carries on forever when the scheme often seems to be abused by family members.
TheFairyCaravan · 25/03/2023 21:04
Your mum must have been in receipt of DLA for a very long time to qualify for a Motability car at 84. Your sister and your mum are both abusing the system. The car can only be used for your mum’s benefit, no other reason, at all. Motability have taken to fitting trackers to cars that aren’t being kept at the leaseholders address so they may already be aware of the abuse of the system.
Your mum’s blue badge isn’t tied to the car, it can be used in any car.
ancientgran · 27/03/2023 15:03
He's still on DLA so I don't know about PIP.
Mrsjayy · 27/03/2023 15:01
Indefinitely doesn't mean that any more unfortunately I had the old mobility allowance for life but didn't get pip automatically I had to jump through a million hoops it was a nightmare despite having the exact same condition as before.
ancientgran · 27/03/2023 12:18
I don't think everyone gets it indefinitely. My DH got it as a lifetime award as there is no prospect of his condition improving but at the time we were told not everyone got the lifetime/indefinite award and he might have to be reassessed from time to time, I think it was every three years but I'm not sure about that.
Babyroobs · 25/03/2023 21:48
People just carry on getting it indefinitely if they've had it before they turned pension age. And DLA was so much easier to get than PIP is now. Personally think it's ridiculous it carries on forever when the scheme often seems to be abused by family members.
TheFairyCaravan · 25/03/2023 21:04
Your mum must have been in receipt of DLA for a very long time to qualify for a Motability car at 84. Your sister and your mum are both abusing the system. The car can only be used for your mum’s benefit, no other reason, at all. Motability have taken to fitting trackers to cars that aren’t being kept at the leaseholders address so they may already be aware of the abuse of the system.
Your mum’s blue badge isn’t tied to the car, it can be used in any car.
Babyroobs · 27/03/2023 16:18
Yes there are plenty of older people who will never be assessed for PIP but they don't seem to re-assess for DLA either.
ancientgran · 27/03/2023 15:05
I just checked, says due to his date of birth he won't have to change to PIP.
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