My DM is early 80’s and moved into an over 50s place about 15mins away. I have 2 teenagers, full time job, DH and we have never had any help. No family local so this is a shock. I don’t really get on with DM and over the years have maintained low contact mainly for my mental well-being. DM is overly critical, can be harsh and moans at everything. Worse that she gossips about us siblings.
What is life going to be like with her here. How many times do I have to visit? Do I have to do activities, but the shopping? How do I maintain privacy and not be the subject of her gossip? I have no idea what to do. And totally pissed off that now the kids are at an age where I finally have more freedom, DM moves down - she is unable to walk far so shopping, walks - all need support. Any advice or have you been there? I really am sad about it if I’m honest.
Elderly parents
I’m a new sandwich - any advice
SadSandwich · 06/03/2023 10:44
MereDintofPandiculation · 07/03/2023 09:36
This is what we 'scrimp and save' for all our lives. To buy in help and care as needed when older and leave our busy adult DC with jobs and families of their own to enjoy the prime of their lives. This is often said on here, but I don’t think it’s necessarily true for the older generation. You scrimp and save so you can pass on something substantial to your children or to your grandchildren. So anything you spend on yourself on daily living tasks that you’ve been used to doing yourself is whittling away at your children’s inheritance. And that upsets yourself esteem.
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