Has anyone been in this position? She drives to see dad in his care home every day. Her driving is bad and, we think, possibly dangerous. She has some sort of dementia and we're waiting for diagnosis. New large scratches and dents on car. Care home manager said she sometimes arrives in tears as she's so stressed about parking/finding a parking space. We can have a daily carer for 15 mins per day to book her taxis to and from dad. Local taxi firm wont do personal accounts. We have told her this is coming but she forgets everything. Any tips from anyone who has been in this position? Apologies for typos. Stressful day and I've had wine.
Elderly parents
plantarfun · 27/02/2023 19:21
Remove her car keys to protect the public and her from the guilt of harming/killing someone.
Then deal with the fallout. If you explain sympathetically she probably won't mind too much especially if she can still go wherever she needs to without the stress.
helpfulperson · 27/02/2023 19:28
I would focus heavily on the carer coming to book at taxi and not mention the not driving. So anytime she mentions driving you say 'but you get a taxi to see Dad'. Is the carer there when the taxi arrives or does she forget a taxi is booked and drive? it might also be worth paying more for another firm that will do a regular booking, hopefully with a regular driver. Sometimes it's just about establishing new routines
and if necessary take the spark plugs out of the car.
SabrinaEvolutuon · 27/02/2023 19:30
Yes we've chatted about it but she forgets everything. We will take the car and the keys on Sunday. If the car stays there she will think she's lost her keys. No need to involve DVLA.
SabrinaEvolutuon · 27/02/2023 20:05
I don't need to read that.
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northernlola · 27/02/2023 20:19
So she's ok to drive between now and Sunday? No, she's not. Please take the keys.
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