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[MyMumhasDementia]

My mum is really poorly. She has been seen by a doctor today at the care home. Her says we’re 82 and he thinks she’s aspirated vomit into her lungs.
Shes 90 and very frail.
She also has a uti.
The Dr gave is the choice of sending her to hospital for O2 or leaving her in the care home on Palliative care.
My brother and I chose the latter. The care home staff are so amazing and supportive but I can’t help but feel we’ve let her down.

She’s very ill and I want her to be peaceful and pain free. Is that wrong? X

Sending hugs to you OP

As hard as it is, I think you've made the right decision. If she was admitted, there's no guarantee she'd get a bed on a ward and could end up in a hospital corridor. Everything is noisy and loud and the staff won't know her personally. Whereas now she's at 'home' in her own bed/chair surrounded by people who love her. You've made the hardest but kindest decision. ❤️

Oh I'm sorry, I've just read the thread through to the end and saw that your mum has passed. Sending you

That was a wonderful thing you did for your mother. May she rest in peace.

So sorry for your loss. I hope you can find some solace in the fact that you advocated so well for her and she passed as peacefully as possible x

Sorry for your loss. You did a wonderful and loving thing for your dear Mum. Sending love 💐