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Hi! Is it pregnancy hormones or is it weird?

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Kardelen · 22/12/2022 10:23

So!
I have a toddler and I’m pregnant to another. Live with parents and husband. Left my little one at home today, as I had an appointment at 8:15 at the hospital for a routine check.

as per usual, appointment times don’t always go to plan and hasn’t done so with any of my appointments so I always wait minimum half hour after my appointment time to be seen. This time was no different and had to wait.

by the time I came out of the hospital it was after 9am. Mum called and I said I’m driving. Anyway, I quickly popped the local grocery store and bought fresh bread etc for breakfast. By the time I arrived home it was 10, and received another phone call from my mum while I was parking. So didn’t pick up.

when I came home first my dad started saying why I am so late. So I explained. Then my mum started questioning me why I am so late. I said the usual where they don’t see people on time, plus went to get bread etc.

and then she was still in disbelief saying what about before going to get bread it still took long etc etc…

so I sort of raised my voice and said it’s normal… I feel guilty that I raised my voice. But how would you guys have reacted? Is it my pregnancy hormones that make me less patient?

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Dedontdodatderdode · 22/12/2022 16:28

As you’ve posted this in Elderly parents then I’m assuming that they are of an age where looking after a toddler is hard going for them.
In which case I think it’s perfectly normal for them to quiz you where you were, because they will be trying to figure out if you could have been home sooner to relieve them. From your point of view it’s seems ridiculous and excessive, from their point of view “where were you” is “why weren’t you back sooner?”

glamourousindierockandroll · 22/12/2022 16:34

It sounds like you haven't communicated very well tbh. Did you tell them that you would be home by 10am at the latest? Seems like they were expecting you closer to 9am and in that case, you probably should have ditched the groceries and gone back home or at the very least phoned them to check in.

DingDangMintyBells · 22/12/2022 17:35

Why didn’t you take your child with you? Most people don’t live with their parents so no your behaviour isn’t normal. It might be normal for you but your parents reaction implies they find it odd.

Summer2424 · 22/12/2022 17:43

Hi @Kardelen sounds like pregnancy hormones x

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:33

I’m assuming you don’t have a child as it’s nearly impossible to keep a toddler occupied while waiting for an appointment! I’m heavily pregnant so it’s nearly impossible to be chasing around either sweetheart.

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:35

Not really. Because the journey to the hospital takes at least 30 minutes.

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:35

Of course! Maybe I should’ve communicated better and said I’m pooping in to get bread i guess.

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:38

Popping*

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VariationsonaTheme · 23/12/2022 17:38

Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:33

I’m assuming you don’t have a child as it’s nearly impossible to keep a toddler occupied while waiting for an appointment! I’m heavily pregnant so it’s nearly impossible to be chasing around either sweetheart.

I think you’ll find a fair proportion of pregnant women take their toddlers to appointments with them, because they have no choice!

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:41

in all the appointments I’ve been, never seen a single child. The room is pretty packed as well.

for scan appointments they’re even stricter, and say no children are allowed.

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pocketvenuss · 23/12/2022 17:50

You had already had one call from your mum so why did you go to the supermarket? Why didn't you race straight back to theirs?

EL8888 · 23/12/2022 17:51

I think it’s kind of obvious it wouldn’t be a quick in and out job due to the type of appointment it was. Bearing in mind appointments usually run late (even if you are 1st appointment of the day as l was recently!) and the NHS is basically in the toilet.

For clarity people rarely bring other children to maternity appointments. Some places don’t let children into scans either: it’s not a social occasion, it’s a medical appointment

Im pregnant and not that patient right now. Bit sick of the dumb questions e.g. can’t you eat raw fish when you’re pregnant and dumb statements e.g. you don’t look like you’re having twins

RudolphTheGreat · 23/12/2022 17:52

Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:33

I’m assuming you don’t have a child as it’s nearly impossible to keep a toddler occupied while waiting for an appointment! I’m heavily pregnant so it’s nearly impossible to be chasing around either sweetheart.

Yet plenty of others manage exactly this.

EL8888 · 23/12/2022 17:52

pocketvenuss · 23/12/2022 17:50

You had already had one call from your mum so why did you go to the supermarket? Why didn't you race straight back to theirs?

I’m guessing no racing as it wasn’t an emergency 🙄

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:56

Why would I race back? I spoke to her and everything was fine?

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:58

Thank God someone understands what I’m talking about!
exactly this- medical appointment not a social occasion!
Yeah, I think I was the second appointment, and staff were literally just arriving and getting ready x

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 17:59

well just cos they can manage doesn’t mean everyone can, and not all toddlers are the same either?

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 18:03

Surely if what you were saying was true, there would’ve been plenty of kids in the waiting room. But there’s none. And like I said, some appointments children let alone toddlers are not allowed anyway.

hospitals are also germ centres, especially at this winter time. My toddler wakes around 9, so your telling me I should wake him up early and take him there in the cold morning into a germ centre? Where he would be touching and putting the same hands into his mouth!

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RudolphTheGreat · 23/12/2022 18:09

Gosh no you couldn't possibly take your toddler out in the early morning when it's cold and germy OP! You sound very precious. If your toddler is such a handful you can't manage them, perhaps that's why your parents were keen for you to return.

gamerchick · 23/12/2022 18:15

You sound, with your attitude on here and attitude with your parents that you're royally taking the piss out of them.

If it's their house, why on earth are you having another baby? Maybe it's time to get your own place and you can be as long as you want. They don't want to look after your kid for hours at a time with no communication

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 18:17

Yes very precious thank you. You can take your child out and let them suffer in the cold, but I’ll do whatever I want with mine.

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 18:17

That’s between me and my parents. In fact their choice so that’s nothing to do with you.

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 18:20

Also, if someone comments to you appallingly, I’m sorry but I can’t be nice either. Seems like your filled with attitude the way you commented on my post anyway…

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Kardelen · 23/12/2022 18:21

And for hours?
he literally woke up at 9, so it’s one hour.

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YomAsalYomBasal · 23/12/2022 18:22

OP you seem really immature about all of this, I'm guessing you're quite young.
If you leave someone in charge of your toddler it is pretty unreasonable to go to the shop as well without letting them know. I took twin toddlers to all my appointments as I had no childcare, perhaps you don't realise how lucky you are to have other adults on hand. Definitely keep them informed next time.