I have an elderly mum and an auntie (mums sister) . My mum has me snd my brother who lives about 40 miles away .
2 years ago I had a huge fallout with my mum over my brother who wouldn't help out when mum had an operation . She defends him all the time and he can do no wrong in mums eyes ... he's the golden child !
Due to this row my mum and her sister have stopped speaking as my auntie stuck up for me . Normally at Xmas I would have them both at my home .
Last year I was in a real dilemma who to invite and it made me physically ill . In
the end mum told me to have my auntie as she wasn't bothered about Xmas . She said she had been invited to my brothers but she declined so ended up spending Xmas on her own .
My aunt has no children no husband nobody only me and my argument wasn't with her .
This year I'm struggling again who to invite . I feel it's mums turn but the thought of leaving my aunt on her own upsets me so much . Then I think my mum has my brother to spend Xmas with so she has no reason to be alone .
I absolutely hate Xmas due to this family situation . Any advice would be welcome x