Feeling really sad tonight.
My mum has always liked her "stuff" and although it annoyed my dad and me, we still could function on 0ur three bed semi. She has gradually gotten worse as she has aged. I left home about seven years ago and haven't been back as felt that I didn't want to row with her about the state of the house. Quite frankly it gives me terrible anxiety and I worry for my my parents as they are in poor health. My poor dad has a tiny portion of the house to himself and the rest is a cluttered mess. He has given up trying to get my mum to see sense and just seems to exist among the chaos.
I have come to visit this weekend bringing my four year old as he has never been to visit his grandparent at their house before. We were meant to be staying at their house and I have her two months warning that we were coming. My mum has apparently been trying to clean up but today I walked in and the place stank to high heaven and both the beds that my son and I were meant to be sleeping in are covered in bags of clothes and books etc. We have ended up booking a hotel room for the night and I'm regretting coming. I don't know what to do. I have tried giving her tough love, I've offered to come and help her get rid of some of the clutter. I have tried offering her money for new carpets if she can clear the place. I have explained to her that it will only get harder and she gets older to sort it out. She has even seen a counsellor about her obsession of collecting things. Nothing seems to work. I hate myself for thinking it but I wish I could just go no contact and not have this hanging over me. I love my mum but right now I really resent her for her hoarding and what I perceive as bloody selfish behaviour.