Just had a phone call - it's covid

[SomelikeitHoth]

Nursing home just called. MIL has Covid. DH cannot go for 14 days.
The residents are tested regularly. My husband was due to visit standing outside, while MIL would be within hearing distance in a heated conservatory with the door open.
He's has had to do a fair few visits trying to talk through a window, which was impossible as MIL has a weak voice from a stroke.
I am so upset for him. It's another step back. My MIL has not seen her only grandchild or me since March. This feels so inhumane

I'm sorry op.
This situation is a absolutely shit.

I really feel for the elderly that are having to isolate from family.

I hope your mil recovers well

Can he still go to the window and phone her from there? So he's outside and she can see him while they talk?

@Calcifer12 I would imagine MIL will be isolating in her room to prevent spread to other residents so I suppose it depends where her room is (my dm's is on the first floor)
It's a tough situation op and we're in the same position. There is talk of nominating one family to be regularly tested so that they can visit properly. We'd have to choose between me and dsis. The whole thing is a nightmare.

I think something will happen re nursing homes soon - it's really come into prominence in the last few days. I think when it all started it seemed OK - all right, no contact during lockdown, best to protect them. But no-one imagined that 9 months on many residents (my father included) would still have had no contact with loved ones.

DH has been allowed into see her yesterday and today, wearing PPE. The doctor says she is dying. He's there again now with her.
I'm now worried that DH will get Covid.
DS is at home, as the entire yeargroup was sent home on Monday for a week.

I’m so so sorry. What a heartbreaking situation for everyone. ❤️

Thankyou for your kind words

I'm so sorry. People in nursing homes and their relatives have suffered more than most this year.

If they're letting him in, they know the end is near, I'm afraid. We've just been through this with my daughter visiting her dad. Given his mum has Covid it's very likely he'll get it - he really needs to take precautions but expect the worst. It's hard for you, too, as really he needs to sleep somewhere separate to you. I'm so sorry, it's such a difficult time.

I am so sorry about your MiL. Thank goodness they are letting your husband see her.

Even if he does get the illness most people will be OK. Please try not to worry about him. He's younger and fitter.

(I've had a couple of my kids sent home at different times to SI - they and their classes have been fine....the virus hasn't spread through them and their classmates beyond the original person.)

Thankyou for talking to me everyone. Much appreciated

I'm so sorry. Words won't do anything, but I just wanted you to know that we're thinking of you and your family tonight 💐

I’m so sorry. This situation is so awful.

I’m really pleased however that your dh is able to see her.

I'm so sorry for this utterly shitty situation. I'm glad your DH can be with her.

Sending you hugs. This has just happened to my family. If it helps at all the family member who visited the now deceased did not get covid despite being in the room with them for two hours (they were cautious though).

This is so sad. Hoping DH can take comfort from the fact that he can with her.

I am so so sorry.

I'm so sorry. This is such a hard thing to deal with anyway and COVID just makes it even more so.

for you, your dh, your MIL and for everyone affected by this disease. Thinking of you

I'm so sorry. Glad your DH could be with her, sending love and strength to you all.

I'm so sorry somelikeithoth. It's awful.

If it's ok to talk about bereavement ?
Be aware that with Covid, we were not allowed to ask for MIL's hair to be brushed or her nails done, once she had passed away.
Also, cannot have her dressed in some nice clothes. They will only place them in the coffin. I hope this might help anyone else prepare arrangements, at what is an overwhelming time.

I'm so sorry @SomelikeitHoth sending all my love and strength to your family

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So very sorry @SomelikeitHoth. Such a hard time for you all. 💐

So very sorry @SomelikeitHoth my thoughts are with you all