I'm posting this for my DM. My 88yo DGM has dementia and moved into a care home near DM a number of months ago after a fall. She has a little nursing care but her dementia has greatly improved since she's been receiving regular medication and meals. It's not a dementia home.
Before then she lived alone and we all wanted her to move into a home as she couldn't look after herself. But now she's in the care home, DUncle is unhappy at how much it's costing. DU looks after DGM's money and is a named person on her accounts, as per DGM wishes.
Such is the case that now DM and DU have fallen out. He tried to secretly remove DGM from the care home to put her in a cheaper one but was stopped by the care home manager as DGM told her she wanted to stay where she was. There's some kind of order in place now that he's not allowed to even take her out for a coffee.
DGM's solicitor, doctor and care home manager are 100% happy she has capacity to make decisions. DU has requested several assessments claiming that DGM is not of sound mind, but she passes them all.
She has now given DM POA and asked for DU to be taken off the accounts. But they have discovered DU has recently transferred the balances to his wife (my aunt). We're talking six figures as DGM had enough to stay the home for 12 years.
I'm assuming it's not a police matter as he was an account holder, though it is definitely theft as it was DGM's money. I advised DM to speak to Age Concern or similar as I expect this kind of thing happens all the time, but not sure what else can be done?
There have been a few other upsets as he's taken some valuable items from her unoccupied flat, which DM has noted somewhere. And DGM can't remember what's in her Will but DU won't give her it to her, so her solicitor has recommended she draw up a new one. So it all sounds very dodgy.
Any advice/suggestions?