can anyone recommend where I can get a nice microwave meal for my mum on xmas day?

[ssd]

she doesn't eat very much and she isn't good at going out

we are going out for a chinese on xmas day and to take her would be a nightmare, its all too mcuh for her now

I've seen myself cooking small quantities of a turkey dinner on xmas morning to take over to her to give her a xmas dinner, but its such a faff and as we are going out I'm buying no xmas dinner stuff anyway

does anyone know if M&S do a nice dinner for one with turkey? I seem to remember asking them this time last year and they sold out the minute it came in store!!

any suggestions would be very welcome!

thanks x

x

So sorry for your loss ssd I was reading the thread and then got a shock as I was envisioning your lovely Mum. You sound like you really looked after her and she will have enjoyed your attention as careful as it was.

xxx

How are you doing ssd? Are you getting support and tlc? Christmas will be tough. Thinking of you.

hi girls

am a bit up and down twentyten, still in shock really, even though she was old it was unexpected and a total shock

friends have been good, dh too...siblings well they live far away and one stayed to help and one totally was useless, both went home after funeral and have hardly heard from them...thank god for friends and dh

its such an awful adjustment, I was very involved with mums life and its left a big hole

but am sure she didn't suffer and is now with my dad, she just slipped away from this earth to somewhere else

So sorry. So much to work through- and every anniversary brings new memories.
Are you taking care of yourself? Have you considered counselling? A big part of your life has gone. Sending hugs.

I've phoned cruse and am waiting for their info pack. I definately will talk to a counsellor if I can.

thanks for asking

how are you doing?

Hi ssd.Glad to hear you've contacted cruse-our local hospice offers bereavement counselling(free) to anyone-not just familes of patients.It will give you somewhere to take all your feelings and numbness.
Here-spent our wedding anniversary (20th) looking at homes for my MIL-deterirating fast with dementia.Had a great lunch though!
so-juggling but glimpses of joy with dh,dd,and friends.
Be kind to yourself-moments of indulgence.You deserve it.

Your mum was so lucky to be loved and cared for so much by you.

waitrose will have lovely 'christmas dinner for one' type ready meals.

Hi ssd.

Hope you are doing ok. That's it, really.

thanks everyone

just been to M&S, treated myself to a few wee treats

I always bought her a nice bunch of their flowers, and I like to go now and see what ones I'd have bought her this week....I can hear her voice in my head saying "buy them for yourself darling" and I reply "one day I will mum, but not yet"

one day when my heart's not so heavy I'll buy myself a bunch instead of her, I know where she is she'll see them and smile

Oh ssd you made me cry(big wuss that I am)Glad about the treats- hope you can buy the flowers soon for YOU.until you can.....

Hi - have been lurking but not posting and have been pretty busy since my mum passed away. Still got boxes of stuff to go through - and not sure what to do with some of it. Mum died in February so it's not so raw now and I wasn't as involved as you were ssd - or not for as long. It does leave a gap tho' - the first few weeks I didn't know what to do with myself on days I would have gone to mum so I can imagine how you feel. There are occasions which are more difficult than others - and just times you miss her. I got a new job and felt really odd that it was the first job I'd ever had that mum didn't know about. I couldn't have taken it if she had still been alive tho and I know she'd have hated to think she was "holding me back" - so there are many conflicting emotions. Not sure how I feel about Christmas - glad I can look back at last year and remember mum had a good one. Tough times for you ssd - take care of yourself.

thanks twentyten and readsalotgirl

its nice to speak to you both again

xx

post whenever you want a chat!

thanks!

I post a lot on the bereavement threads now, have moved from elderly parents to bereavement...oh well