9 yr old laughed at by whole class for getting question wrong

[chocolatelovingmummy]

my 9 yr old daughter came out of school really upset today,she says she put her hand up to answer a question which was brave for her! she got the answer wrong and then tried to correct it and got it wrong again and then the whole class were in fit of hysterics laughing at her, she said she started crying,teacher told them to stop and then got on with things.i feel really bad for her and for the first time ever does not want to go to school tomorrow.I just think its enough to put her off of putting her hand up in class again,if anybodys got advise as to how they would handle this id really appreciate it.I know its just one of those cruel things in life that she has to learn to deal with but its a big deal to them at the time.Thanks for reading this,im new to this so i hope im in the right place and sorry its so long!.

How strange - have to say that in teaching for over ten years in upper primary, and as other teachers have said, I have found that pretty much all classes (mine and others) that I've experienced have had some members shyer to answer than others, regardless of the expectation. Surely it's the same way that in a given group of adults, there will be some who wish to more than others? People vary.

So I'd hardly say shyness was unusual, and I'd certainly work to make sure that shyer children were encouraged and supported when they contributed, but I still think it would only be a real problem if it truly restricted the child in some way - and I mean in terms of happiness and being able to interact with friends and life etc, rather than solely the 'speaking and listening' curriculum expectations - a helpful guide, but needless to say not everybody will fit them, and that's back to people just varying again.
I guess if the children confidently speak up all the time then that's great, but tbh if they really do give 'strings of wrong answers' I think I would actually get them to slow things down a bit, so they could take in and make use of each others' responses more, that's worked before. Depends on the activity of course. Just my tuppenceworth anyway!

CLR good for you, I think the way you talked to her about it was really helpful, and it's great to hear she'll keep on giving it another go. I bet her teacher will be looking to encourage her. Good luck!