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started new school (indie from state) and teacher has said DS has...

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stillenacht · 02/03/2010 20:48

'a bad attitude'.(Apparantly because he didn't do a presentation piece of work for homework we didn't know anything about). (He has just completed a massive project in which he worked really hard - he has never done a project before).

DS is 10 - In his former state primary he was never a problem to the teachers (DH and myself are teachers too in GS school).All his teachers said he was a pleasure to teach. I am gutted. He is upset and angry.

We have transfered him to local indie school (mixed ability school - not massively academically selective,in January) and have put him down a year as academically he is weak. We think he is finding the work ok. However he is finding it difficult to settle into his new school as we took him out of his year 6 in his state primary which he loved but myself and DH just couldn't bear the thought of him going to the local schools (which we have taught in) into year 7 so we thought we would get him into the indie and give him a year and a half in the primary section before he moves up to the senior school (assuming they will have him). He is a good boy. We have saved for the last 4 years to be able to do this and are going to remortgage up to the hilt.

Parents evening is next week - feel gutted really and sad for my little boy. He really wants to do his best and try even though he is not hte brightest of the bunch. His old teachers always used to say how helpful and mature he is.

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UptoapointLordCopper · 05/03/2010 09:37

When I was 15 my parents were told by my teacher that I had an "attitude problem". At that time I thought "So I did and what are you going to do about it". I guess she was right. One postgraduate degree later I still have an attitude problem. I hope I always do.

Sorry not helpful. It's my attitude problem.

Builde · 05/03/2010 11:29

Private schools (and may state primaries) set far too much homework nowdays.

Poor modern children having their time wasted in this way...

stillenacht · 05/03/2010 19:41

Thanks all again for your comments - I do really appreciate them. We did of course discuss all of this with our son and he does understand that we want the best for him - we want to give him a chance. If he could have stayed in the state system but in a year younger that would have been the perfect solution but hey ho...

To be honest knowing the way he is if it were left to him he would have been happy to sit in the remedial group throughout the state system,looking out of the window, not being offensive to anyone and doing jobs for the teacher (so as to get out of work!)I know my lovely boy and I know he is one of those children. He needs attention and he needs to be 'sat' on a bit by the teachers to encourage and motivate him.

He is doing ok as far as I know - regularly coming home with tales of merit marks and he has made a new friend which has cheered him up (he came over for tea the other day).

I will make it a priority to see the teacher concerned on parents evening. Our family life is quite difficult as we have a severely disabled other son and our NT son (my lovely 10 year old) has obviously to accommodate all of that in his life too.

Thanks everyone again. xxxx

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stillenacht · 05/03/2010 19:45

Adair in answer to your point earlier - we couldn't afford to do it any earlier. Have been saving every spare penny from my meagre wage for the last 4 years and will be able to afford about 3.5 years worth and then remortgage time until he has finished year 11.

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Babyonboardinthesticks · 05/03/2010 20:19

could you get jobs in his school? For one of my sons we paid 15% of fees for 8 years only because his father taught there.

stillenacht · 05/03/2010 20:32

Xenia -We are looking - unlikely though with our subject at the moment as we know our equivalent there and don't think they are going anywhere fast.

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Babyonboardinthesticks · 05/03/2010 23:21

Ah, you need a cunning plan to persuade them to emigrate or retire early or something or fall in love with your planted pretty young Russian with whom they escape the country.

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