I did type a reply to you about an hour ago pugs only for the dog to jump on the laptop and manage to shut it down. I am however quite aware that a house and car don't make someone's class.
Acknowledging the fact that class is subjective, personal and means something different to everyone I did say outwardly middle class.
I am very aware that although I see myself as working class my dds school see us as a middle class family, economically comfortable, both parents are well educated and have professional jobs, both very involved in dd's school and she spends her time on extra curricular activities such as horse riding, ballet and other "educational things" Despite all of those outward signs I consider myself to be working class.
Middle class for teachers is a lazy way of summing up a lot about a child but at its most basic it means a child that comes from a family in which the parents are educated to at least degree level and have a profession.
In my previous school very few parents fell into that category, in my current school many more do. In my previous school, as a teacher I was considered by my pupils to be well off financially. In my current school I am seen as poverty stricken, infact one class said to me once "you are really clever Miss why one earth did you become a teacher?" If I were in an independent school I would wonder if I were teaching one of Xenia's offspring.
I became a teacher because I wanted to improve life chances for kids like me. I was the first person in my family to go to univesity from school, I am one of the few people to have a professional job and when my life took a turn for the worse I had my education to put me back on the right path. I don't want to pigeon hole anyone or produce self fulfilling prophecies but I would like to think that a bright child from a family like mine has an equal chance to a bright child from an outwardly "middle class" family. I am not sure how successful that is, but I am sure that it has more chance of being successful within the comprehesive system as opposed to the grammar system as it exists today.
I don't actually think comprehensives do shove children together who don't get along. Children are very good at selecting their friends and finding people like them, every now an again they surprise themselves with a new unexpected friend.
I know that a clever child like me would never have got into a grammar despite the fact I was Oxbridge material. My parents would never have sat down and coached me for an exam, they probably couldn't have been bothered to take me to the exam and they would have never driven me across town had I got a place.