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dd said a shocking thing about her teacher over dinner.

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LargeGlassofRed · 07/10/2009 22:38

So all sitting round over dinner something came up about school and grandma said
'oh do you have to stand in the corner if your naughty?
dd2 says, no i'm never naughty, but if you are naughty she stamps on your hands or feet at carpet time.

dd2 is 5 she hadn't realised what she said was shocking she just carried on chatting away.
Later I asked her who she had done it 2 and she named several boys, I asked if it maybe was an accident and she said no she does it all the time

So what do I do? rang a friend who has ds in same class and she is going drop it in conversation with her ds and see if he says the same.

I really don't think dd would make it up but can't be 100 percent sure.

The teacher is known for being shouty.

OP posts:
ProfYaffle · 08/10/2009 12:16

I meant 'lie' in the sense of 'telling an untruth' not saying it was malicious, calculating or a deliberate attempt to mislead, just that some stuff she told me was not actually literally happening in real life.

piscesmoon · 08/10/2009 15:24

It is perfectly possible that the teacher said 'Watch out-I stamp on the hands of naughty boys and girls!' I can't possibly do it on here in the written word because it is all do do with facial expression, body language and tone and it could be done in such a way that the DCs knew they were sharing a joke and no one could take it seriously. It would be rather like saying 'watch out for the bears if you stand on the pavement cracks'-DCs like that sort of thing, if they know it is a joke-as in playing 'What's the time Mr Wolf?' and the wolf pretending to be fierce and eat them. If OP's DD had been in the least frightened or worried she wouldn't have said it in matter of fact tones and carried on with her meal and talking about other things.

cory · 08/10/2009 16:12

Children may tell something they know is an untruth and still not grasp the implications that would have to an adult. My db took his ds to the doctor's late one night and sat for ages in the waiting room waiting for his son's ear infection to be seen to. Bemused doctor looks in one ear, then looks in the other, then looks again- 'sorry, I can't see anything'. 'No', my dn pipes up quite cheerfully, 'I just made it up.'

Not exactly imagining things- but not really telling lies in the adult sense either.

choccyp1g · 08/10/2009 16:30

There is another take on children making things up, in that they might be expressing something in a story that reflects their real life fears or feelings.

OPs DD could be scared that the teacher MIGHT do something like this. Though if it was a case of a big bad scary teacher it would be more likely to come out as nightmares, than as a casual remark.

seeker · 08/10/2009 17:40

And there is a much loved and respected year 3 teacher in ds's school who does actually stand children in the bin on occasion. It is a badge of great honour to be selected. My dd is in year 9 now, and still remebers when "Mr P put me in the bin"!

Cazya · 08/10/2009 19:38

Staff have been banned from wearing high heeled shoes at my friend's daughter's school, ever since a reception child's hand was trodden on (by accident).

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LargeGlassofRed · 08/10/2009 20:41

quick update, friend rang earlier her ds said yes she has stood on hands at carpet time but only an accident.

Asked dd2 over dinner again if it could have been an accident and she said maybe but only to naughty boys?

So friend has asked other mum to drop it into conversation with her dd to see what she says.

Don't want to get into accusations or gossip, both friends work in education and have links with the school both very sensible and are well aware of children's fabrications.

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seeker · 08/10/2009 22:21

Honestly, largeglassofred, don't worry about it. It is possible that the teacher stood on someone's hand by mistake - these things happen. It is possible she said "Well, if you had done what I asked you, it wouldn;t have happened"

You dd has interpreted this to mean the teacher stamps on naughty children's fingers. She doesn't. She may be good, bad or indifferent, nice OK or nasty. But she doesn't stamp on children's fingers on the carpet. I promise.

bubblerock · 08/10/2009 22:30

When I was in primary one teacher used to throw blackboard rubbers at us!! Luckily I missed the cane by a year or so (not that I was ever naughty of course! )

cazzybabs · 08/10/2009 22:35

I trod on a child's fingers today at carpet time ... I didn't mean to it was an accident...he moved just I stood up to navigate from the computer (where we have been using the interactive white board to my normal pen white board)...I felt very guilty...I feel very guilty but did point out that is why they need to sit still on the carpet!

I also scratched a child on Tuesday...we both reached out for the rubber at the same time - I have very short nails...

However I also been kicked by a child today and had a chair placed on my toe

All these are normal events in my classroom and the children are frequently hurting each other...

however none of then are serious and ever leave a mark, bar the child who fell over in the playground and broke her arm...

sigh god be glad none of you have children in my class

cazzybabs · 08/10/2009 22:37

largeglassofred....thinking about my class - today it was boy...the boys are the ones more likey to be moving..boys find it hard to sit still. So would be the ones most likely to get fingers trod on

Sputnik · 08/10/2009 22:53

DD the other day said her teacher beat people with a sledgehammer! I sort of doubt it, her teacher is the mildest person possible.

TheFallenMadonna · 08/10/2009 22:57

I hit the same year 7 girl in the face twice in the same lesson. I wave my hands around a lot when I talk. I need an exclusion zone. She learned.

WriggleJiggle · 08/10/2009 23:15

Every day for the past 2 weeks dd has told her teacher that I woke her up really early in the morning with my toy dinosaur.

Oh how I look forward to the day when I can go into her room to wake her up, rather than be woken up at 6am! Still searching the house to find the toy that could be mistaken as a dinosaur.

TheLadyEvenstar · 08/10/2009 23:31

LOL wriggle you so know you do wake her with a toy dinosaur

MavisEnderby · 08/10/2009 23:45

DS thinks his headteacher spies on his class via a camera linked to the school hall (his friend told him so it must be true!! [WINK])

shockers · 08/10/2009 23:50

Little hands would get injured if someone was stamping on them!
There will be another adult in a reception class.
"Shouty" may just mean she is asking them to do things that they don't want to ( like sit down on the carpet to listen to this nice story and stop interfering with the hair of the child next to you) and insisting when they refuse!

TheLadyEvenstar · 08/10/2009 23:52

Shockers thats sooooooooooo boring lol

shockers · 09/10/2009 00:00

Oh I'm going to bed... too old and boring for this thread (and I've got a yr 4 class to stamp on tomorrow)

shockers · 09/10/2009 00:02

And it's book day and I have to dress as a wolf....

TheLadyEvenstar · 09/10/2009 00:10

lol

WriggleJiggle · 10/10/2009 08:46

Oh dear Shockers, just wait for the stories that go home about you tonight!

piscesmoon · 10/10/2009 09:16

I think that people should bear in mind, from this thread, that some very strange stories are told to the teacher by the DC about parents-luckily they don't take them seriously!

cory · 10/10/2009 10:28

Now Shockers, that seems to me a way to actually be able to stamp on people's hands and get away with it: wear wolves' paws and you won't leave a mark. Crafty.

seeker · 11/10/2009 07:15

It reminds me of the teacher who said to the parents "Let's do a deal. You promise not believe half of what they tell you happens at school, and I promise not to believe half of what they tell me happens at home"!