Do I leave my note to dd's teacher in her HW book?

[stroppyknickers]

ok, every sat am is HW time. DD (9) is in the top group for everything, but hates maths. She gets her HW out, srarts loudly moaning, refuses to do it. I make her try, or sit and help for a while, tell her how to do uit and then expect her to have a go. It usually ends with her screaming, shouting etc. I don't want to sit next to her for the whole thing, I think she needs to try, then I will help where she gets stuck.
Yesterday, I wrote a note in her book 'x found it impossible to finish her HW without much screaming and stamping', as I am sick to death of her stinky attitude, and I think it is very attention seeking. I also don't think it is acceptable, esp in front of the younger brothers. So, leave note or rip out? I want her to have an authority figure confirm that it is silly behaviour.

Squeaky - yesterday it was 7 questions, rounding two numbers per question to the nearest 10,000/ 1,000 etc and then using that to approximate an answer by multiplying/ adding whatever. Wish it was coin collecting/ practical!

12legs - LOL

and stubborness. My 9 year old is stubborn for England.

My two year old DD is like this already..... she is more hard work than my two dss put together... lovely though.

there's no hope, is there. I have a biting baby, terrible toddler, cheeky five year old and a mini stroppy.

I see your biting baby, terrible toddler, cheeky five year old and mini stroppy and raise you:
My third ds is due in 5 weeks.... building work to be completed by the end of next week, decorating of master bedroom, landing hall and stairs, buying of pushchair, packing of bag for hospital, Mother staying (from China , she's English)until after christmas, stroppy six yr old ds who hates school work, very cheeky five yr old ds whoi has middle child syndrome, 2 yr old dd with hand foot and mouth, DH who has gone out for the day with DSS to play rugby and take them to cinema on our 10 yr anniversary, tonight he's off to a conference call at his office to peeps in the middle East, and heartburn.........
Come on have I won Stress poker or what??

My DD sounds a bit like yours - good at everything, but says she doesn't like maths... cue wailing and whining sometimes when homework has to be done. I find the "it's your choice -you can explain it to your teacher..." approach works well as she is pretty diligent and wants to be seen as angelic at school .

FWIW, I agree that I don't want her tantruming over homework infront of younger brother - I want her to set a good example!

One of the lunchtime clubs at our Junior school is a homework club. Dd3 does all hers there. Unfortunately it hasn't started yet this year and we are also having screaming fits at the moment, so sympathy for you

12legs. Forgot to add...organisation of 3 birthday parties stil to do, purchase of hair stuff to keep hair salon fresh as is going curly not cool, dh and I rowing, can't remember why but unwilling to break deadlock, mother arriving from Scotland [bit like China?] and bedwetting. Ha! Evens? I'd give anything for a nice hospital stay with a lovely new baby
Elling - wish they wd have HW club. Teachers cd suffer instead of me!

Stroppy.....mmmm I see you have a good hand!! Started 'relate' last week, again, got a couple of great books... one called stop arguing, start talking.