Hi Jimjams,
My thoughts about the statementing process for what they're worth:
*It takes time- about 6 months if they keep within the statutory framework and the instances when they truly do this are few and far between. Very frustrating for parents, especially if, like you, their child's support in nursery/school is dependant on the statement. It's worth asking for interim support from the LEA once it becomes clear that they are going to statement, though.
*To ease hassles, make sure you and any key "onside" professionals hand in your SA1s and SA2s as early as possible and definitely before the deadline. If you can I would advise chasing such professsionals to send in their written input yourself- or getting a voluntary organisation to do that for you- rather than waiting for the LEA to do so. IME they don't bother and the statement is either delayed or goes ahead without input from some key people. Particularly important that people like your son's private speech therapist have their say, I'd have thought, and they may not think to ask her if she's outwith the NHS system, so it's important that you make it clear that you want her to contribute a report, if you do.
*When you get your draft statement look EXTREMELY carefully at the part 1- the description of your boy- as this has huge impact on the provision that they recommend. Oftentimes this is an utter joke and parents do not recognise their own offspring... If this occurs with you TELL THEM SO at the earliest opportunity- you have a fortnight in which to this. Essentially the statement draws from all the SA2 contributions given by parents and involved professionals but the weight they give to some comments over others can be COMPLETELY baffling IME. I see things like:
"Jed is a happy five year old boy who enjoys playing with action men. He can recognise his name and can identify 4 colours. Jed is able to recognise simple shapes such as a circle, square and triangle blah blah, blah. Jed has special educational needs in the area of: social and communication difficulties. FINITO"
all the time. Well, from that Jed sounds just fine, really, and quite frankly is not going to get more that the minimum support available even though he needs it desperately because, although all the things mentioned are true, he cannot cope without his familiar routine, finds it actively PAINFUL to be in a room full of noisy kids, throws ferocious temper tantrums, needs someone to oversee his PECS communication system, is still in nappies etc etc etc. All these things should be in the description... People will of course have mentioned these facts in the SA2 reports but, whether through accident or design, all the salient facts that could lead to a coherent and helpful provision for the child rarely find their way onto the relevant parts of the statement without lots of fuss on the part of parents.
That's all I've got time for for now. HTH, Jimjams, and good luck with the statementing. I'll post more if I think of it.