This problem has been brewing for months. It's been on a back burner recently due to my caring for terminally ill father (died in April) - now I HAVE to deal with this one way or another.
DD is in Year 1. I sent her to a small, 1-form entry primary as I thought this would be a great environment. However in a class of 30 she is one of only 5 girls and none of those are of her ethnicity. Putting aside ethnicity, she (we) have nothing in common with any of her girl classmates. I feel dd is rather isolated (eg if I drive past at lunchtime she is frequently walking round with the lunchtime supervisor, she has NEVER received a invitation to tea, we have never had an invitation accepted). Sometimes she plays very casually with other children, but there is no real 'friendship' there. Whilst dd's mother is rather introverted and not a terribly social creature, there is nothing wrong with dd. She is bright, bubbly, good fun, clever. She mixes well in other settings. I have discussed these issues with the school on two occasions and there is a unwillingness to accept that there might be issues. They say she's fine and they'll monitor the situation.
I just don't know whether to change schools. My heart breaks for the fact that she doesn't have school friends, and I think it is also having an impact on her behaviour. She is not learning to compromise, to deal-make, to be part of a group as well as I would wish her to.
There are other good schools locally. Dh and family say they will support me whatever I decide - I take the lead on the children here.
Why am I being such a wuss about this all? Why do I feel such a failure? Views appreciated. I am out for a couple of hours, will check in on return.