School teacher

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Hello all,

I hope you are well.

Asking for advice.

My child is at secondary school, and is top of all the classes, and never ever has any teacher /staff said a bad word about my child, but only one teacher is constantly making my child feel targeted. From shouting, to accusing, to telling my child it's a privilege for my child to be there, to saying my child is the worst student . I'm shocked, as no one said this in the school to my child ever. My child doesn't want to go to that class anymore , and said its unbearable. That teacher even scolded my child in a parents evening, without realising I was the mother. This teacher never even has raised concerns to me. It's been nearly the whole year now, and my child said if other teachers know, they will be bias, or the teacher will make more issues .
I am a teacher, and shocked at the things said by a teacher.
Please advise
Thank you in advance

Furthermore, hence replying to any advice on here, whilst doing household chores and mothering , definitely does not equate to formalities surrounding written words.

Using words like furthermore and hence ARE pretty formal whilst you are busy doing housework?!

So, can you clarify-does your child go to state school or public school? Are you in England?

This can't be real...even as a teacher at a private school, you'd know that what you're asking of the school re: grades etc is ridiculous. I've never taught in a state school that ranks students in class based on their results!

And as for behaviour in one lesson - perfectly plausible for a kid to be acting like an absolute idiot in only one subject. Most of the time it's mine, as they don't think it's relevant!

You have had no report from the teacher despite getting reports every term and they’ve never talked to you about your child despite the parents’ evening?

And as for behaviour in one lesson - perfectly plausible for a kid to be acting like an absolute idiot in only one subject. Most of the time it's mine, as they don't think it's relevant!

You're an RE teacher.

eta: Though I have known some children be like that about French.

Just because your child hasn't in the past been / isn't usually pulled up on poor behaviour across the board doesn't mean she isn't capable of it and choosing to display it to this teacher who having to deal with it.

I am an RE teacher - is that relevant as to why they think it's okay to be acting like and idiot in my lesson?

Or do you think my subject is pointless too?

I did 21 years as an RE teacher. My pupils had one session a week of RE, but more of other subjects, so they concluded RE must be unimportant. The white working class ones had no religious beliefs of their own and no respect for the beliefs of others (generally - there were some who were more open-minded). Their parents, also godless, supported the pupils in 'not liking' RE. Sometimes parents would tell me directly they didn't believe and didn't want their child to learn RE. We did multifaith, which some parents found distasteful.

You are fighting a losing battle. The system is set up against you. You'll be seeing more pupils each week than teachers in other subjects, have more reports to write, have less time to work with the pupils you see.

Perhaps if you're in a church school you'll get more curriculum time - but then, in a church school, you'd expect to have the support of parents.

Ultimately, children, whilst a precious resource and a joy in the world, are little shits who won't behave if they think they can get away with not doing. Try some role-play at home. Be a child acting-up. It's fun. We're fucked.

I remember some of your other threads and I feel like you are putting your child under significant pressure to be at the top of everything. Him being top is your top interest.

Perhaps he was just messing about in a lesson, maybe even enjoying himself, and now the teacher has an eye on him.

Like @noblegiraffesays, I don’t understand how you are getting a report every three months yet this teacher is persecuting your child and you had no idea. He said your son was ‘the worst student’ and you are continuing to send him there?