School teacher

[Zssn]

Hello all,

I hope you are well.

Asking for advice.

My child is at secondary school, and is top of all the classes, and never ever has any teacher /staff said a bad word about my child, but only one teacher is constantly making my child feel targeted. From shouting, to accusing, to telling my child it's a privilege for my child to be there, to saying my child is the worst student . I'm shocked, as no one said this in the school to my child ever. My child doesn't want to go to that class anymore , and said its unbearable. That teacher even scolded my child in a parents evening, without realising I was the mother. This teacher never even has raised concerns to me. It's been nearly the whole year now, and my child said if other teachers know, they will be bias, or the teacher will make more issues .
I am a teacher, and shocked at the things said by a teacher.
Please advise
Thank you in advance

Sorry to say it OP but I’m more inclined to believe the teacher on this one.

teachers don’t usually just start singling out and attacking pupils.

You are only considering your child’s story. It will be most likely your child has been misbehaving and has (rightly so) been punished. They’re now shitting it you’re doing to find out and they’ve come up with a different narrative

Have you not spoken to the school?

It's been going on a whole year and you have done nothing? How bizarre.

I would email the form tutor and raise your concerns.

Are you sure he is at the top of all classes?

Yes, top of all classes , report given every 3 months .

Thank you.

I have been brushing it off , as I thought it was my child , but evidently isn't, as all teachers say my child is a model student, but not that teacher. Ipersonally saw this teacher tell my child off for standing next to me in the parents evening line too, whereby my son was talking to me.

I should've dealt with this earlier I know.

Hello,

Not only considering my child's story , but I personally saw the teacher tell my son off in from of me in a parents evening line. All my child was doing was talking to me. I informed the form tutor there and then, but never got back to me.

Also every teacher says my child is a model student but that one too- doesn't add up at all.

Oh no, I am not inclined to believe my child, because I witnessed it with my own eyes too. It didn't concern me until now either.

Oh, I am a teacher too, so do consider all aspects, but this doesn't equate at all.

Furthermore, why doesn't this teacher contact me if this is true? Why also is that the only teacher too?

Have done so , thank you

Ipersonally saw this teacher tell my child off for standing next to me in the parents evening line too, whereby my son was talking to me.

You were standing in a line with your son and a teacher came up and told him off for staying next to you? What exactly did she say?

At the time, I responded by saying what did my child do as we were talking, and the response was , my child knows and the eyes of the teacher are on my child, and my child needs to stop- whilst yelling , despite being next to eachother. No explanation, no nothing to me, then said hot to go.

I did inform form tutor then, but never did get back to me regarding this incident. I did leave it , but every few weeks is the lesson with that teacher, and it is getting unbearable for my child on many fronts.

Only this teacher, and no other.

My child and my child's friend said when they couldn't do a task and needed help, that teacher said it's not the teachers problem. Another time, that teacher said it is a privilege for my child to be there, just because my child could draw a 3d image of a lion, and said what's wrong with my child. Then today my child and their friends said that teacher said something abhorrent to them .

As I said, I did brush it off, but now I am really concerned, as it is only that one teacher.

As a teacher you now what to do.

Talk to the teacher and if you don't get the response that you want/makes sense escalate through the complaints procedure.

What lesson and what year is your child in?

Didn't think any schools gave out form positions any more.

Yes, top of all classes , report given every 3 months

That is a very unusual reporting system. Is this a private school?

No, it's not a private school,, but at the start of each academic year, I request all grades and or marks for every module assessment to be provided to me, along with feedback per each test.
As a teacher myself in the private sector, I informed the school that my child attends , that is what I require, and they agreed to provide this every 3 months after assessments.
I think as my child passed the 11plus with high marks, and I informed the school my child may move to another school when in ks4 , they have been accommodating to all my requests regarding academics thus far.
I have found out that in a state/public school, you do need to be stern with what you expect from them with your child. If you don't say, they won't do.

What do you teach @Zssn ?

I am somewhat sceptical that a state school (or any school tbh) is reporting class positions to a parent, even at their stern request. Also they are doing as you ask bc otherwise you will move your child?

I agree with pps you need to report the issue with the teacher to HoD and form tutor.

Is this subject one that your child has little interest in and doesn’t take seriously? Art perhaps? In my experience high achievers sometimes don’t see the ‘point’ of some creative subjects and their behaviour can vary accordingly. It sounds like your child and the teacher have clashed like this in lessons.

Hellfire. You sound like hard work. You seem to have quite a poor opinion of state school teachers.

Your English is very poor for a teacher at an independent school. None of this sounds convincing. There’s no way I would provide extra grades and feedback like you’ve requested- schools have reporting procedures. You sound like a nightmare parent.

I have found out that in a state/public school, you do need to be stern with what you expect from them with your child.

And with that statement, you condemn yourself.

You need to learn about British cultural expectations in secondary schools. Is there ansomeone familiar with the system who could help you?

'Public' schools, by the way, are the poshest independent ones, where people pay significant fees for their children to attend.

Thank you for your comment, however as this is an online platform no need to produce accuracy in grammar is there? Furthermore, hence replying to any advice on here, whilst doing household chores and mothering , definitely does not equate to formalities surrounding written words.

It's okay if you, nor others find this "convincing ", as I am not trying to "convince ", but merely asking advice as a parent for a situation my child is facing in a public school.

Thankfully, the school my child attends finds my enthusiasm for my child's education and school life incredibly beneficial. Even 2 of the department heads last year stated more parents should show the same level of interest I have towards their children.

Thank you.

I wanted to send my child to a private school, and that would've been 1 hour or so away. My child wanted to go to the school in our catchment - which I understand, so thought of giving the school the benefit of my doubt.
I can now see state schools are overstretched in more ways than one indeed.
Regretting my decision, and highly likely will put my child elsewhere after summer holidays.

Blimey. Did you get a sticker as well?

You can’t demand feedback to be sent to you for every test your child does.

Also, teachers don’t provide positions to parents as to where their child is in the class after each test.

Yes, have done so and hopefully will get this sorted prior halfterm break.

Thank you

"as I am not trying to "convince ", but merely asking advice as a parent for a situation my child is facing in a public school"

I thought you said your child attended a state school. Public schools are fee-paying independent schools, the opposite of a state school.

What is it you teach @Zssn ?

I agree your use of English is unusual (and not bc of errors due to rapid typing on an online platform) – it’s phrases like Furthermore, hence replying to any advice on here, ... definitely does not equate to formalities surrounding written words that sound kind of manufactured, for want of a better phrase. That’s why I wondered what you taught.

Yes public schools in the UK are very expensive private schools like Eton and Harrow. The word has a different meaning in America.

There may be no need to have accurate grammar and punctuation on an online forum, but I would expect that a teacher would have that as a matter of course.

I assume that you are less familiar with the English system of schooling and have scant regard for state schools. I think it’s a good idea to move your child to the private system.