Changing schools dad disagreement

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I'm looking at moving in with my new partner who lives in a different town then I do. My two children are coming with me their dad is not happy about this. There's a lot of reasons I'm moving and spoken with my partner about this he's fully on board. My Ex on other hand has a temper and has said its not happening, my question is can I change the kids schools without his permission. Bare in mind I have said to him the move doesn't no way shape or form stop him from seeing or having the kids the travel is just further for him again I'd compromise by taking kids to him.

Can your partner move to where you are instead?

Summary of the position, OP:
https://watsonmorrisfamilylaw.co.uk/separated-parents-disagree-on-school-choice/

Mentally the relationship between me and my ex was very unhealthy. He still trying to control what I do.
Children are one in primary and one in senior.
Spoken to both children and are quite happy about the move again they worry what their dads reaction would be.
Schools and whole area so much better than where we are now.
I aware big change.
Partner I've been with 2 years and yes we have spoke about if the relationship ended ect everything has been covered not going into it lightly as say relationship with the kids dad was a very rocky one.
Thier dad works 2 weeks on 2 weeks off has them overnight the Friday sat Sunday on those weeks off and sees them when he wants to he has them more over school holidays if he is off.

How far away are you moving?

Better area where he is. Work and family commitments and he owns his own house we have talked about this in great lengths. I'm able to find a job in the area.

How many nights are they with him, does it include mid-week, so he'd have to get them to the new school. How old are they?

I think you need to see it from his POV a bit. It's not a compromise for you to do the driving to him, if you are the one who moved and caused the issue, that should be the default.

Why have you chosen to move to your DP and not him move to you?

It's possible you and he could both be unreasonable at the same time.

Sorry, cross posted, you e answered it all!

He has them two weekends Friday sat Sunday only other time he has them is school holidays if he's not at work .
I'm well aware how unreasonable it sounds and believe me the decision is not taken lightly. Every avenue has been looked at.

It's a 45 min drive away at the most

If the children want to move and are old enough to say so, then their views will be taken into account if it gets as far as a judge, but I think you need to try mediation of some kind first.

So when he does the school run on a Monday morning… he has to get the dc up extra early and drive further before getting himself to work?

Yes you do need both parents permission to move schools of course you do or a court order in place

No it's not and in no way shape or form has he the input about my children visiting their dad. I comuted with my eldest and that was his dad that moved away from him. I'm very much a father should be involved. I do most of the school runs now and kids are with me every night during term times they may go to thier dads a few hours after school when he's not working again this is something I've said I'd work with him on if he talk to me but theres many factors about or relationship that i wont put on here. Family time is important to me,

He doesn't do the morning school run he brings them home to me on the Sunday night sorry again my mistake he has them Friday Saturday nights brings them him Sunday night

Your ex could go to court to try to get an order specifically about schools. I'd definitely try mediation first. As you say yourself it looks uneven now, taking the kids 45 minutes car drive away will make it even harder. I think you need to accept that however much you want this, your ex still has parental responsibility and is entitled to a say.

I've put the kids first throughout the decision. The move would mean a better lifestyle for them. Again everything has been taken in consideration. Where I live now is not suited and unaffordable their dad doesn't payCSA I wouldnt fight him for that as I say relationship was a very rocky one he takes does them out on the weekends he has them.

He doesn't have the kids when he's working, he works two weeks on two weeks off he already compliand he doesn't get any time to him self on his time off even though I work 5 days a week and have the children every night apart from the weekend he has them. I'm not complaining as they are my children and they are my life. The move would mean I would mean I'd have better working hours to work around the children and thier father would have time to have " his time" which yes he is entitled to it.

Apart from the fact that he does need to give permission

He changed our daughters school so that he didn't have to do any more morning school runs. He was adamant when we separated that she wasn't changing schools then out the blue he changed his mind and applied to change her school. I wanted to know if needed to ask his permission before confrontation as again not to go to far into it on here or what he is like. He's the children's dad first and foremost but some of the actions he does are not in their best interests. The choices iam making have been in discussion since Christmas and every option has been looked at. I'm not jumping into it as a last minute thought.

And you could and should have stopped him there changing it. you know he will take this to court - how old are they I suspect they very much could take you side and allow it but be prepared for it to go that far

Why isn’t he paying maintenance? I’d be getting that sorted asap. I get why you want to move but you can’t make a unilateral decision when he has PR.