We like op have one in each, dd thrived in state, she is bright, competitive, autumn born, and lucked out on mainly great teachers in primary school and a really solid group of friends in secondary. I think those two things make an enormous difference. She had one year where her teacher was awful, he seemed to really dislike her, and her best friend moved away and she was a shell of herself at the end of that year. In secondary she had enormous teacher turnover and we paid for an English tutor as her teacher wasn’t very good.
DS is summer born, dyslexic, adhd (both quite mild but challenging combo of all three) had inexperienced teachers almost all the way through primary and struggles with friends. He was in bottom sets in state secondary and getting really good at entertaining his peers rather than learning so we’ve moved him to a small independent school. He’s really benefited from small classes, higher expectations and less drama. He has still experienced bullying, but school has been better at recognising it. He has now a couple of lovely friends.
Fees went up quite a lot last year, before the VAT, and school has mitigated some of the rise. I think inflation has hit us harder that the VAT really, I do feel we’re squeezed middle class, and growth of the wealth of the super wealthy irks me more than having to pay more taxes. I voted Labour knowing this was the plan. We are paying about 50% of fees from income and 50% from inheritance/savings, we would not have considered it had we not got a reasonably decent inheritance from my father.
im a state school teacher and have seen my real terms pay decline. I feel like I earn a decent wage, but inflation has hammered its value! DH wage is commission based so fluctuates, we have a joint income of £90-140k dependent on his performance. So we are definitely comfortable. We’re both state educated and our parents are very working class.
I would much rather have felt able to keep him in state, I am broadly in favour of tax rises. I would also be happy for my sons school to economise, he’s in a small school that is popular with service families, it’s not a ‘public’ school, it was one of the cheapest locally, but the gap between that and state is huge, there’s 3 in one of his options classes and 4 in maths, largest class is 14 I think, whereas largest gcse class in my state school is 34. Our buildings are in a dreadful state, we have classrooms that are never warm and others that are always hot, our toilets are constantly being vandalised everywhere looks tatty. We get about £6000 per pupil in state, I’m paying about £21k a year for private.