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A short story, for the attention of Ms Reeves

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mrjsw · 25/09/2024 18:19

This story is about fishing, but of course fishing is just a metaphone. It is really about anything that you and your children are passionate about.

When my son first started learning to fish, he was at the local stream, using a piece of string on a stick. This was fine, and it was great for most of the other kids there because it was free and provided them with all the basics that they needed. Yet it was easy to see that my son was a very gifted angler from an early age and he was clearly frustrated with his progress. He wasn't getting the support from the people around him at the stream, plus the lack of proper fishing equipment was evidently affecting his ability to develop.

Luckily we became aware of an exam that he could take which could potentially open up access to a huge range of high class fishing spots all around the country. We were warned that it was a grueling process to break into this world of private fisheries and was likely to be extremely expensive. Nevertheless, our son was determined to give it a try because he understood that he could achieve so much more if given the right opportunities. He was only six at this point, and the exam would take up a good year of his childhood in extra study and preparation and he would be competing against kids from all over the world, most of whom had been preparing for this at private pre-fisheries since they were born.

As so we looked at our finances, long and hard. In order to give him a fighting chance at passing the exam we knew we had no choice but to pay for extra fishing lessons away from the stream, and to invest in some professional fishing equipment. There was no guarantee that he would pass the exam and it could all have been for nothing, but the passion our son showed made it all worthwhile.

A year later, our son sat the exam (there were actually many exams as each fishery had their own process). To our delight, through his hard work and sheer determination he did incredibly well. He was offered places at several different fisheries, fisheries with reputations as some of the best in the country! We were over the moon and our son was elated.

With the high of his success came the deep worry of how we would actually afford the place that our son had earned. The fishery he wanted to attend was ranked 3rd in the country and oh boy did they know it! The cost of attending made the expense of the past year pale in comparison. But there was no way we were going to give up now. Again we looked at our finances. We had no savings as we'd spent everything we had on the extra tuition and resources to ensure he could compete in the exam, and we had no family in a position to support us, having both grown up in much more humble conditions than we now found ourselves. With enough sacrifice though, and if I could secure the promotion I'd been working towards, we could just about make it work. It wouldn't be easy for any of us and life would be extremely tough, but if it meant our son could reach his full potential then everything would be worth it.

And so my son began his journey in this new world of elite fisheries, and he began to thrive. We found ourselves in a strange new land, surrounded by people with unimaginable wealth and opportunities at their disposal, but also by many other families like ourselves who were giving up everything to support their children and give them the opportunity to participate in this exciting and enriching environment.

At work, my colleagues were moving out of their starter flats, buying family homes with luxuries like gardens and second toilets, purchasing cars on finance, going on holiday (abroad!), surprising their wives with romantic weekend getaways and generally doing all the things that most people with a decent salary like mine take for granted. We, on the other hand, spent our evenings in our small apartment, sitting at the Ikea table combing through our expenses, looking for ways to save a few pounds here and there, cook more efficiently, mend old clothes, and worrying about how to afford the latest hike in the mortgage, the council tax, the electricity, the food shop, and so on.

But it didn't matter, because our son was not only thriving and becoming an excellent angler at the fishery, he was also learning about so much more than just fish. He was being exposed to so many new and fascinating opportunities. He had picked up musical instruments, he was a confident speaker and team player, he was learning new languages, and he was so far ahead of where he would have been at the local stream as to be unrecognisable. He was full of a sense of achievement and confidence, and above all he was happy.

And so we were happy too, despite the daily struggle to balance our finances and the constant bombardment from all sides by the ever increasing cost of living. We were happy that we could make things work, that my salary was just enough to cover our expenses, that we could still put food on the table and keep the meagre roof over our heads, and that we could watch our son grow and thrive and come home every day glowing with new knowledge.

And then the government decided that the children of families who work hard, save hard, and sacrifice everything do not deserve to attend these elite fisheries. That the likes of us should be forced to use the local stream along with everyone else who works for a living. That only the properly rich, those with trust funds and investments and property portfolios and generational wealth, those who don't have to work or save or sacrifice, only those kind of people should be allowed to send their children to these elite fisheries. Not us pretenders. Us who earn a salary. Us who pay the lions share of taxes. No, we should not be allowed to strive to better our children's future. After all, it was from these elite fisheries that most of the people in government came, and they didn't want to see us in with a chance at the kind of opportunities they had when growing up.

They realised that the money we had earned (and which the government had already taken 45% of before we even received it) was not being spent on "stuff" (that is, useless consumer items that people don't need), and so they were not getting their extra taxes when we spent our money, and it was not being saved so they could not get their extra taxes from our savings either. They realised that we were investing our money in something they couldn't tax (yet): education, knowledge, our children's future.

And so they changed the law and taxed the money that we invested in our children. But they didn't do this in a way that would allow us to adjust our life to meet this new onslaught of cost with careful planning, or time to get another promotion, to get a new job, get a second/third job, or whatever it took to meet this fresh demand for more money. No, they engineered it so that the likes of us would have no chance to attempt to meet this sudden, insurmountable financial burden. They said this new tax would be payable immediately. And to make sure that the fisheries couldn't soften the blow for their hard working families, they also hit the fisheries with many additional taxes at the same time. This ensured that the fisheries were forced to pass on the full burden of the education tax and had much less of the money they usually set aside to support struggling families through hard times. They had thought this one through with cunning and malicious intent, and there was no escape for the likes of us.

Our son, our bright, gifted son who is brimming with potential is nine years old and has made firm friends among his peers at the elite fishery that he worked so hard to get into, forming childhood bonds that should have lasted a lifetime. He is at the peak of his curiosity and educational awakening.

Yet now he has been ripped from this place that he earned through hard work and determination and talent and is back at the local stream. He doesn't understand why. He is confused and conflicted. He is angry. At us, at the world. His spirit has been crushed. His belief that with enough hard work he can achieve anything he puts his mind to has been destroyed. He is years ahead of his peers and he barely recognises the string on a stick that they expect him to catch fish with. He has no interest in what they have to teach him.

Our investment in his future, the money, the years of hardship, the sacrifices, his year of childhood lost to exam preparation, it was all for nothing. Worse than nothing in fact. We have not only lost those years of our lives, the time, the money, we have lost our happy, determined little boy. He is crushed. We have less than when we started in every single way.

With one cruel and spiteful swipe, the government has taken everything from us, just because we dared to believe in a better future for our child.

OP posts:
Yalta · 26/09/2024 10:58

LuckysDadsHat · 25/09/2024 18:49

I'm so so so sorry that your bright, gifted, wonderful son can no longer go to his elite fishery and will have to mix with all of the plebs at the non elite shoe string fisheries. Maybe, just maybe save your anger for the non elite fisheries have been underfunded for over a decade and that with the change in fees it may bring up the non elite fisheries so your amazing son can be happy mixing with the plebs.

If they were underfunded before they aren’t going to get any better with the amount of children who now won’t be going to even attempt the private school route

Dont forget not all private schools will survive so those at the tail end who lose the pupils who were just making the business turn a profit will end up going out of business and the 100+ children in each of these schools who were going to remain in private education and pay their 20% tax to the government, not all will be able to find a place they can afford//like/in the area to change to so will also end up costing the government more by wanting a place.

LuckysDadsHat · 26/09/2024 11:05

steppemum · 26/09/2024 10:54

This was fine, and it was great for most of the other kids there because it was free and provided them with all the basics that they needed.

Can you honestly not see how offensive this statement is?
So those other kids, they may also be gifted, bright, have huge potential.
Or they may need support with their learning because they have addtional needs.

Their parents may also work really hard, but still not have thousands and thousands of pounds spare for private school.

Or their parents may be uncaring shitheads, BUT THAT ISN'T THE CHILD'S FAULT. Their child still deserves an opportunity to learn.

Why is only your child allowed the opportunity to learn more?

I would love to see the VAT from private schools spent on the schools who are drowning under tight budgets and over crowding.
I firmly believe that every child deserves a chance.

The OP doesn't give a shit about other children, as long as her golden child is OK fuck everyone else, but she expects everyone else to suck it up so she can send her PFB to their special school for magical, special children who excel at fishing.

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2024 11:56

The OP doesn't give a shit about other children, as long as her golden child is OK

Cognitive dissonance at its best.

OP posts about her child affected by VAT policy. She and her child are very unhappy.
She doesn't get any sympathy but told to suck it up.

Can someone please explain in layman terms why she should care about other children if nobody cares about hers?

Londonmummy66 · 26/09/2024 13:06

Actually what the OP misses in talking about someone being so elite at one particular thing is that the government does in fact provide for those DC. Our elite musicians and dancers are sent to specialist schools to hone their skills and if the family can't afford the fees the MDF steps in to provide. However you do need to be of the very very elitely talented to get that support not just someone who thinks they're too good to muck in at the local stream.

LuckysDadsHat · 26/09/2024 14:40

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2024 11:56

The OP doesn't give a shit about other children, as long as her golden child is OK

Cognitive dissonance at its best.

OP posts about her child affected by VAT policy. She and her child are very unhappy.
She doesn't get any sympathy but told to suck it up.

Can someone please explain in layman terms why she should care about other children if nobody cares about hers?

and it was great for most of the other kids there because it was free and provided them with all the basics that they needed.

People may have cared more about her child if she had shown any care for other children other than basically saying state school is OK for them as it provides the basics but it's not OK for her precious child who is a genius and couldn't possibly be expected to carry on with the other children.

I am beginning to wonder if they OP was a troll to get us all riled up. They haven't been back since!

user47 · 26/09/2024 15:44

Just popped in to see if OP has been back 😂
In other news I have been showing this to everyone I know as the most perfect argument FOR VAT on school fees. Those people genuinely think they are in some way innately better 😂

Charlotte120221 · 26/09/2024 16:18

What garbage.

If you were only just affording the prep school (what's with the stupid fisheries analogy?) then you were never ever going to be able to afford the senior school with or without VAT?

A year of his childhood lost to the entrance exams? At age 6.

You have lost all perspective on the world.

SabrinaThwaite · 26/09/2024 16:23

I’m sure OP’s child won’t flounder in a meagre state school - he’ll become a dab hand at his subjects and will be brill at everything. He just needs to throw himself in, heart and sole, at the new plaice.

steppemum · 26/09/2024 16:28

SabrinaThwaite · 26/09/2024 16:23

I’m sure OP’s child won’t flounder in a meagre state school - he’ll become a dab hand at his subjects and will be brill at everything. He just needs to throw himself in, heart and sole, at the new plaice.

😂😂😂brilliant,
I didn't notice at first until I tripped over the odd spelling of sole and plaice and then I got it.

Heylittlesongbird · 26/09/2024 16:41

OP did you genuinely write that and think your metaphors and terminology would endear people to your cause?

I don't agree with VAT on private schools, but you're not winning anyone over with the arguments which you have made.

My little anglers aren't in the top % of anything. My husband and I both happily came through the comprehensive school system. We didn't expect to choose private school, but the schools near to us all had very poor ratings. We have been lucky that our finances gave us a choice to avoid that.

I do think the VAT is wrong, because we have already saved the state the funds which it would have needed to spend on providing our child a school place.

And because the schools on offer where we lived were so bad. Now labour will say that this is because of the Conservatives and they may be right. But once they fix the schools and offer a decent state system, then I think they'd have an argument to charge VAT on private schools. However, I recognise that 93% of the country have to just accept the local school whatever it is like and have no sympathy with this argument.

You're right, the rich people I know won't even feel this. I went to a meeting about fees in advance (we couldn't afford to do it), but some parents there were wondering why everyone hadn't come to the meeting, it seemed such a good idea, not realising that most of us don't have that sort of money sitting around. But, that's life.

easylikeasundaymorn · 26/09/2024 18:13

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2024 11:56

The OP doesn't give a shit about other children, as long as her golden child is OK

Cognitive dissonance at its best.

OP posts about her child affected by VAT policy. She and her child are very unhappy.
She doesn't get any sympathy but told to suck it up.

Can someone please explain in layman terms why she should care about other children if nobody cares about hers?

because you've got it the wrong way round, chronologically.

OP didn't give a shit about other people's kids first. When her golden boy first went to school, she didn't think 'gosh all these poor kids trying to catch a fish with a stick, what can I do to help?' She didn't campaign for smaller class sizes. She didn't fundraise for additional support or resources. She didn't volunteer to go into school and listen to reading, or join the PTA. She didn't even think 'I wish I could help everyone because all children deserve a decent education, but I can't.'

She thought 'those kids are fine with their sticks but MY SON deserves more, so fuck them I'm outta here.' And it's only NOW that her son is back in the pond with the stick holders she's thinking 'Oh this is a bit shit, but again, ONLY FOR ME.'

PrimitivePerson · 26/09/2024 20:12

The really sad thing is all the pressure the OP put on her son, who is now no doubt terrified of all the normal kids, and probably things they're all feral proles.

CookingApron · 27/09/2024 22:14

I am sorry your son has had a disrupted education. That's hard for any child.

IMO your analogy falls down pretty early on when you frame your child as a 'gifted angler' who is too talented to muddle along in the state fisheries. No. He is a bright 6-year-old who deserves access to a good education. All 6-year-olds deserve access to a good education. You have pissed people off by imagining that there are some children who don't need the advantages that your son deserves.

HazeyjaneIII · 27/09/2024 22:19

"This was fine, and it was great for most of the other kids there because it was free and provided them with all the basics that they needed. Yet it was easy to see that my son was a very gifted angler from an early age..."

Oh mate 😬

Pastlast · 27/09/2024 22:32

🎻< actual size.

RhubarbAndCustardSweets · 27/09/2024 22:38

Oh God when will it end?!

Can't you lot just cut down on some avocados and lattes or something? That's what Torygraph readers have been telling young people to do when they moan about housing costs. So it must be a valid way of finding that extra 20%?

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