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dd was supposed to have been at school this week, why am I so rubbish?

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twinsetandpearls · 18/04/2008 15:56

I have put the wrong date on the calendar and thought she was off the same as me, I have just been looking on the school website for something else and she was supposed to be in school from Monday and I have kept her off for a second week.

What shall I say in her absence letter.

I feel sick at my crappiness.

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 18/04/2008 15:58

An honest mistake, we have all been caught by early easter this year.

misdee · 18/04/2008 15:58

didnt the school call you? ours does.

are you sure they have upto to date dates on the school website?

tell the truth in the letter to the school.

MummyDoIt · 18/04/2008 16:00

Are you sure the date on the website is correct? Wouldn't you have noticed other kids in school uniform walking past?

cadelaide · 18/04/2008 16:02

Yes, surely they would have rung you?

SlightlyMadSweet · 18/04/2008 16:03

Our school call if a child hasn't teurned up by 10am and the school hasn't been notified.

I would complain about that part of it TBH.

SlartyBartFast · 18/04/2008 16:04

surely 2 weeks holidays is normal?

yorkshirepudding · 18/04/2008 16:07

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twinsetandpearls · 18/04/2008 16:09

No one has phoned, I even sent in the dinner money and after school club money with two weeks missing and no one said anything. I have also not seen any kids walking about in uniform, all the kids around here seem to be off for two weeks but have just re checked with the website both on the letter home and on the school calendar and it says they went back on the 14th.

What is really annoying is that the school website is never updated and I have complained about it again and again and I assumed it was still not working so only just checked it now.

I feel really sick.

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Lizzer · 18/04/2008 16:09

Surely state schools (I'm assuming here)all have 2 weeks for easter. I agree, I bet there's a mistake...

yorkshirepudding · 18/04/2008 16:10

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susiecutiebananas · 18/04/2008 16:10

I was going to add that I'm sure its always 2 weeks at the least, for eater holidays. Its end of term isn't it, so a full 2 week holiday.

I've never heard of only 1 week for easter. My nieces and nephews in Kent had 2 weeks. My neighbour upstairs had 2 weeks, slightly different 2 weeks mind you. My other nephew who is at a private school had 3.5 weeks!

I really think a quick call to school now, would be the best thing. Be honest. Just say you thought it was a 2 week holiday, as it always has been, and have been o the website, and are now panicking that your DD has not been in school for a week. ~They will tell you yes, or no. Quickest way to put your mind at rest, or indeed to let them know what happened.

Don't worry wither way, she'll be fine. They will be fine, every body mixes up dates from time to time.

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twinsetandpearls · 18/04/2008 16:10

The school I work at always phones home if no call is made. especially after a holiday to prevent mistakes like this.

If dd is ever off which is rare I always phone in the morning so you think they would notice, knowing that I am a teacher in a school with 2 weeks of, that I had not called and something could be wrong.

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Lizzer · 18/04/2008 16:11

sorry x-posts but still don't think that's right..why don't you give them a ring now and see if you can work out what's happened?

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twinsetandpearls · 18/04/2008 16:13

dp is phoning now. He has just gone mad at me for being pathetic and panicking.

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CountessDracula · 18/04/2008 16:13

Does it really matter?

No-one is hurt
Everythignw ill be fine

Not worth getting upset about

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twinsetandpearls · 18/04/2008 16:14

We have phoned and been honest

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Blu · 18/04/2008 16:14

Tell the truth - that you genuinely thought it was a two week hol because everyone else is on a two week hol!

Was there a longer hol at 'actua;' easter?

I would check that she WAS supposed to be there before you write a letter declaring that you are suffering from dereliction of memory, though

Call your Local Authority?

robinpud · 18/04/2008 16:15

TWAP- what's done is done; you will have an amusing story to share with her in the future. You have had an extra precious week with her at home which is worth everything. Don't worry any more about it. I once took ds aged 3 to a birthday party dresses as a king with cloak and ride on horse only to find that the party had been the previous Saturday...

SlartyBartFast · 18/04/2008 16:15

where they there?

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twinsetandpearls · 18/04/2008 16:17

Dp has phoned the school and they have been ill all week, they had notices she was a way for a week and thought it was very unlike her but has assumed she was ill.

They asked has she been ill so they could put it down as a medical absence and "luckily" she was ill at the beginning of the week.

She is off for two weeks in May.

Should I complain about the lack of contact home while acknowledging that it is my fault.

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mollymawk · 18/04/2008 16:18

Well, if I were you and it turns out that school really was open this week I would be really annoyed with the school that they hadn't phoned you for FOUR days (or even on the first day).

Lizzer · 18/04/2008 16:19

How bizarre to have a 1 week holiday at easter.. Totally not your fault, I wouldn't have given it a thought if it had been me...Did the letter give any reason why it was only one week? I bet you weren't the only parents to do this..They should've phoned..

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twinsetandpearls · 18/04/2008 16:21

Well I haven't had an extra week with her but her Dad has and that will have been very special as she does not see enough of him.

I just am crap at this, very few of the mums in dd class work or if they do it is a part time job that they fit around the kids. I am the only one with a "career" and I really struggle to balance being mum with this. I am always forgetting things like non uniform day or to return letters and I know the other mums roll their eyes at me.

Just before the holidays dd asked me in front of her teacher if we could do an extra project at home and the teacher said in front of me,
"I doubt your mummy will have time" it was like a knife through the heart and I left with those horrible stingy tears in my eyes. I just hate it that once again I am so preoccupied with my own job that dd has missed out.

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twinsetandpearls · 18/04/2008 16:22

I have had the letter giving the right date but for some reason I have not put seperate dates for my school holidays and hers. Just as well I am a teacher and not someone with a normal job or I would have been paying holiday club fees when she was supposed to have been at school.

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twinsetandpearls · 18/04/2008 16:24

grrr I will certainly be having a stress dream tonight.

Should I tell dd Dad? he has to really nag his current partner to have dd for a week, although this time he did not need to as I was off.

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