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Possible School Expulsion

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 11:37

Hi All,
Im very scared of what my outcome might be.
( I am in private school )
I have quite good grades but my record is not the best with 2 previous suspensions
I was caught with my phone after my mock exam despite not using it.
The school are in a predicament as they don’t know to do with me
I don’t know what school I am going or what the process is
I pray I don’t have to resit Year 11
Could anyone advice me on how I could get back into my school or the next steps
thanks

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Alexandernevermind · 08/12/2022 11:46

Don't panic. If you do end up having to resit year 11, it really isn't the end of the world. You are young and I know this is a big year for you, but whatever happens it won't be a disaster.
With your parents speak to the school and work out what the next steps are. Can you offer your phone so that they can check your browsing history during the exam, so that you can prove you weren't cheating?
I have dc your age and teenage years are all about making mistakes and learning from them.

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 11:48

Thanks for your message
Do you think there is any way I don’t have to resit Year 11
It would really mess up my education
Is there an agreement that I could make to the school to just finish my GSCES there?

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Seeline · 08/12/2022 11:53

It's really going to be down to the school.
Why have you been suspended previously?
And surely you knew you shouldn't have your phone with you - my DCs were never allowed phones in any exam from Y7 onwards. And certainly for mocks, they were reminded at the beginning of each exam to hand them in. You know that if you are found with a phone in the real thing you are likely to be disqualified from that subject, and possibly all other exams?
What have the school said so far? Have you been suspended for having your phone?

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 11:57

I’ve been suspended for bullying another pupil before
The school right now are investigating the situation as it’s quite hard to come to an answer considering it’s the middle of Year 11
I really just want to sit my GSCES this summer - that’s my goal - do you think this is possible
What is DC?

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Trinity65 · 08/12/2022 11:59

schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 11:57

I’ve been suspended for bullying another pupil before
The school right now are investigating the situation as it’s quite hard to come to an answer considering it’s the middle of Year 11
I really just want to sit my GSCES this summer - that’s my goal - do you think this is possible
What is DC?

DC = Darling or Dear Child(ren)

Alexandernevermind · 08/12/2022 11:59

It's really down to the school. Again though, try not to panic. Just concentrate on proving yourself and keeping out of trouble. It feels worse than it is, I've know a couple of kids, due to Covid complications, who ended up repeating Yr 11 and its honestly not as bad as you think.

LIZS · 08/12/2022 12:00

Agree it will be down to the school and its policies. Most have zero tolerance of bullying and your history makes exclusion possible. You may be asked to leave but allowed to return to sit exams or directed to an alternative exam centre. Resitting year 11 seems unlikely. What do your parents say?

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 12:03

My parents are both very disappointed and ashamed but at the same time would do everything to try keep my in school
I feel like an idiot for putting them in this position considering I’ve been told that I have potential to do great things in my GSCES
Is there any way to try to convince the school I should stay as I have a meeting with the school soon about the whole situation

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BadGranny · 08/12/2022 12:03

If you are permanently excluded, you might be offered a place at another school or at a pupil referral unit. You should still be able to take your GCSEs, but you may have to do pretty well all the work from now on yourself, without teachers to support you.

If you haven’t already, discuss this with your parents or carers. Stop trying to buck the system, and behave like a decent human being to other people. Bullying and trying to cheat don’t only wreck your time at school, they also make you a rather unpleasant person as an adult. Start to act like the sort of person you want to be.

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 12:05

Thank you
I’m trying to be a better person and I’ve talked to my parents loads about the whole situation
Is there any way to better myself and improve my chances at staying at my school as I’m very scared and pretty much hit rock bottom

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Alexandernevermind · 08/12/2022 12:06

Just apologise, accept responsibility, and tell then what changes you are going to make going forward. Ask if there is extra work you can do whilst you are on suspension.
Your parents love you and want what is best for you.
Are you getting mental health support? Many schools have mental health intervention teams, particularly for GCSE years. Even if you don't think you need it, it wouldn't hurt to ask to speak to someone. I know it helped my dc a lot.

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 12:07

I just really want to finish Y11 this year if possible
I really don’t want to mess up my future even more
Is there any way to help the cause?

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Seeline · 08/12/2022 12:08

Well you are going to have to grovel, apologise profusely, promise to be on your best behaviour, abide by all school rules, maybe offer to sign a behaviour contract of something.
I think honestly the school will want to try and ensure you are able to sit your exams - it's not easy to move elsewhere at this stage of Y11. But they may put in place limits on what you can do etc eg extracurricular activities. It would be a last resort to expel, but they need to be sure that you are going to behave yourself for the next couple of terms and work.

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 12:09

I’ve now realised the severity of my actions and plan to accept them and move on
I guess I could try talk to someone as I previously have at my school last term
Right now all I can do is revise and pray to be allowed to come back into school

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Alexandernevermind · 08/12/2022 12:09

You haven't messed up your future. You are right at the start of your life. Only the school can tell you whether you can stay or not, just please ask for help.

Seeline · 08/12/2022 12:11

If they do allow you to sit your GCSEs, they might not be willing to let you back for 6th form though, so you maybe need to have a think about next year.

purplethings · 08/12/2022 12:11

Write a letter to the head explaining how sorry you are and your intentions to improve your behavior moving forward, say how much it means to you to have the opportunity to sit your exams, perhaps if you have a career project you could add that so they can see the negative impact exclusion could bring you.

Alexandernevermind · 08/12/2022 12:14

They might allow you to go back in just for the exams even if they don't allow you in for lessons. Another option is going to your local state school just to do the exams. There is always a way around this, as long as you put the work in yourself.

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 12:17

Thank you you all for your reassuring and encouraging comments
Is there anything more to try stay in my private school to finish exams
Something perhaps I can offer to the school?

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 12:17

Thank you for your comment
Just very unsure as I’ve been at home since Friday

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 12:18

How do I make sure it’s sincere and they actually want me back at school

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Alexandernevermind · 08/12/2022 12:22

You make sure it's sincere by meaning it and living it. From what you have told us I think you are sincere and do want to change. I think you've had a big scare and wake up call, and you'll be a better person for it.

Fridaytomorrow · 08/12/2022 12:25

schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 12:17

Thank you you all for your reassuring and encouraging comments
Is there anything more to try stay in my private school to finish exams
Something perhaps I can offer to the school?

Something perhaps I can offer to the school?

I do hope you’re not trying to buy your way out of trouble, eg by getting your parents to make a large donation to the school.

That wouldn’t show a sincere intention to change your behaviour.

I agree with previous posters that you can take your exams elsewhere, as an external candidate. If no other school will take you would your parents pay for private tuition?

FirstnameSuesecondnamePerb · 08/12/2022 12:26

If you are year 11, worse case scenario your parents could keep you at home, you could do online/self teach the last bit of the courses and enter you privately for the exams.

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schoolissues22 · 08/12/2022 12:27

My parents would not want to pay for private lessons
Would a large donation be a big issue?
I just want to finish my GSCES at my current school

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