"I went to huge lengths to get my child into the local RC school because the results are brilliant - imagine my horror when they came home saying that contraception is a sin - what should I do?"

[seeker]

Do you thing there are going to be a lot of threads like this in the future?!

Well, there's two for a start!

Except the rhythm method.

can't wait - I'll get my hard hat and the pop corn...

Light blue touch paper and run - that's my rule for life.......!

surely you knew you were making a deal with the devil when you went to those huge lengths. now it is time to grin and bear it or apply for a transfer. imho.

Yes there'll be loads no doubt- make sure you check whether Mum wanted the faith school palcement before you attack though! If parents fought for it without thinking then = stupidity, but theres quite a few like our family who didnt really but thats all the LEA provision that exists in their village and it was automatically allocated.

I'm not sure you need to do anything in answer to the OP ?

There's an argument we should not have religion in any state funded schools as is the case in France and I think the US nor funding of state schools by creationist which Blair did start too. Just live with some teenagers for a while though and you'll realise how strong their own views are. So I wouldn't worry about it.

As my mother used to say the good girls have the babies.

you seem shocked were you not aware that the catholics are anti-contraception, abortion, homosexuality, women in the clergy etcetera etcetera etcetera.

you got your dd into the school you wanted great but sometimes, as my mother used to say, you need to becareful what you wish for.

i'm sure if you are not a catholic and will not be backing up the ideology at home your daughter will be fine. it just means you will have to contradict a lot of what she is told at school - not ideal but what else can you do?

Not this particular thread title no. They teach the same sex-ed in Catholic schools as state.

oh doh. i get it. i am mildly hung over.

but in answer to the thread i expect there are plenty of people who will be wrestling with this dilemma. serves them right.

12yeargap do they really teach catholic kids that contraception is acceptable. perhaps they do in the biology lab but in the RE class/church i expect it's a different message.

I went to do a widening participation talk to a local catholic school when I was at uni (5-6 years ago now) and they did no sex education and refused to let the careers teacher have any info on work in that field either!
I, of course, made some crack about how being a student wasn't all about eating beans and having sex... well sex may be involved but that was ok as long as they used protection...the guidance teacher said he thought the ht wouldn't allow any talks like that again...
If I had more feet I would have stuffed them all in...

oh ding-dong. classic. those poor kids are going to find uni a real shock or, more likely, utopia.

And if your child goes to catholic school then you have to be prepared to deal with issues like this. It's not as if they hide their beliefs under a bushel

was this primary or secondary seeker? We have been thinking about a catholic primary for ds, because it is one of the better schools in the area, but would be a bit horrified if he came home spouting that at an early age [at a later age i could reason with him and counter the argument...]

Seeker explain to your child that the church is WRONG
An unwanted child being ill treated is a much bigger sin then stopping that child coming in to being in the first place.
Watching people dying from AIDS, and handing out bibles instead of condoms is a bigger sin then trying to prevent the spread of Aids via condoms in the first place.

I am a church goer (C of E) my eldest is at a church school, but I think in this day and age common sense needs to be taught not out dated rubbish.

Xenia your mother was right!

I was a good girl - and I had a baby.(at 15)

I think that if you send your dc to a faith school, when you yourself are not of that faith, then there are bound to be things that crop up that you don't agree with. Not thinking about this at the outset is very short sighted. However as another poster said if you do not back this at home then it should be ok.

Just be aware (as I am sure most of us are)that once they go to school, you are not the only person that influences their lives

Er, maybe I've been up too long this morning, but I thought the OP was taking the piss out of the recent church school debate? Or more to the point, taking the piss out of what she imagines is going to be the "fallout" from "middle class parents with sharp elbows" sending their children to faith schools with an ethos in which they don't believe.

In the Catholic schools I've been in contact with, they teach about contraception and leave it up to the parents/ priest to teach the morality. The religious input of the school had the emphasis on prayer.

She was taking the pee.

In my RC school, many years ago , they taught us that contraception is a sin, and masturbation is selfish and a sin.

Don't know what has possessed me to tell people this but - hey

lets hope so Seeker..
actually (and to my eternal discredit) I am hoping for the threads that say 'we lied about being religious and now the church school's results have dipped below the local state..)
As has just happened in my area!
[air punch]

onebat - ROFLMA

oh yes. And those complaining their child is taught about god at the local church school they lied their way into. Got me popcorn ready.

ah yes. should read thread title properly when I've just woken up.

At my Catholic girls' school, we were taught contraception as part of biology, by a very red-faced and uncomfortable teacher. She did not cope well when asked, in all innocence, whether diaphragms came in small, medium and large, and how did you know which size you were.

Confusing thread of the morning award goes to... seeker!

Habbibu....you bad bad WICKED children