My son (4yo) was approved an EHCP due to a speech delay the week before primary school placements were allocated. At the time of school application the EHCP was not in place, so all our choices were for mainstream schools. We found out yesterday he got our first choice mainstream school, but now he has the EHCP we do have the option of him going to a Special School if we would like him too.
Has anyone else been in this situation before?
The mainstream school appears from our research and visit to have a very good SENco team - including specialist huts built for learning and a whole page on their website dedicated to SENco, we also know someone whose child has Downs Syndrome and attended the school until Year 4 and they were very happy with the support he was given.
And I just have a gut feeling that despite the speech delay and undiagnosed mild autism (no impact of his day to day life) he would do absolutely fine in this mainstream school and he could build a good life at the school - it is local to our house so friends would also likely be from the local area for play dates and there are other children that attend the school that also attend our church (it is a Catholic school and we are practising Baptists).
However am I short changing his education by not sending him to a special school seeing as he has that option available to him? The closest special schools that would be suitable for him are about 15 miles away - no idea how we would manage the school runs and wrap around childcare as both of us parents work full time, but that is a different matter! - so little chance of any friends being local to his home for play, no guarantee on how broad the needs of others in his class may be (personally I feel my sons needs are very mild) and so he may struggle to make friends at a similar level to him. I have been told that if he does well at the mainstream school then he can transition to a mainstream school, but I just feel that this is such a disruption to a small person and if friendships are formed by that point, it just seems cruel.
I am waiting for a call back from the head of SEN at our allocated mainsteam school so I can discuss it with them and I am doing plenty of research of the special schools that have been suggested.
I just feel so confused about what is the 'right decision to make' as at the end of the day I just want what is right for my son and unfortunately the decision doesn't seem as simple as black or white!
Any advise or words of wisdom greatly appreciated.