My ds 4yrs 4mths started school full time in September. He absolutely loves going, really enjoys doing his work, but his teacher says that he is the most disruptive, disobedient, defiant child that she has ever taught. Apparently, he is always leaning/pushing/poking the other children, won't stop when he's told not to do things, always fiddling with things like pencils/books etc when he's supposed to be listening to the teacher (and all the others are behaving), won't stand up straight when it's time for prayers at home time, makes a noise when he's supposed to be quiet... everything just about that makes the teachers day a complete misery. She says he's not the naughtiest in the things that he does, but that he just looks at her, smiles, says sorry and then carries on doing whatever he is supposed to be not doing!! He had gone to Nursery full time before school, and had not behaved like this there, and he doesn't at home either - he knows that No means that. I don't know what to do. It is so horrible being told that your child is like this, it makes you feel that you've failed completely. Anyone have experience of anything like this?