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Should I bother complaining about Headteacher?

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dawn932 · 06/09/2019 19:14

My son has just gone back as Year 4 student this year. Late in Year 3 the school advised that if parents give permission children in Yr 4 would be allowed to walk home. I emailed in the school holidays to give my permission, and have just had the week from hell with not only my son's class teacher but then the Headteacher contacting me every day haranguing me to change my mind and telling me that he should not be allowed to walk home on his own. Far more was said by them, and I have had to defend my decision at every turn. They have stressed me out to the point I sent a letter to the headteacher outlining my reasons and saying that the school should at least let my boy try before they say he is not capable of walking by himself. Obviously the headteacher didn't like this as she sent it to Social Services. This was after the last harassing telephone call, where I insisted the send my son home. The headteacher felt it her right to follow my son all the way home and knock on our door and question him, this was yesterday. Today after school he walked all the way home, was home at approx. 3.40. At approx. 4pm I had a Social Worker on the door as the headteacher referred my son to them. I couldn't believe it. As it is he was a very sensible person. He actually had already asked the headteacher things like what were her actual concerns, did ds look both ways and use all available crossings to which she had to say yes, her concern was that he didn't know what number house he lived in, however he came straight in and locked the door behind him, until she knocked. Do you think I am right to be dismayed that this head hasn't anything better to do than follow my son home, and more from my point of view harassing me to the point of not being able to eat, and actually bubbling when I was talking to the Social Worker, she has stressed me so much. I probably sound stupid but it has been really horrible .

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toomanyhobbies · 06/09/2019 19:36

Why did the school send the email if they didn’t want kids walking home alone. Do you know if anyone else is walking alone and if so how have they been treated. Do the teachers have reason to think your dc is less able to this?

TitianaTitsling · 06/09/2019 19:44

Is he going home to an empty house and that's the issue?

LeekMunchingSheepShagger · 06/09/2019 19:52

How old is he? I assume 8? I can see why the school are concerned to be fair.

Raphael34 · 06/09/2019 19:53

Are there any issues the school might have why they might have (apparently) singled your son out? Do you live far away, is the walk to your house dangerous or do you think the school considers your son too immature to walk home on his own?

Raphael34 · 06/09/2019 19:54

What was the ‘far more’ that was said by them?

Lindy2 · 06/09/2019 20:00

Is an adult home when he gets back?
How long is the walk and how many busy roads?
It may not be the walk that concerns them but you say he locks the door and it seems to be your son who talked to the head teacher when they knocked, not you or another adult.
My daughter has just gone into year 4. I think she'll be ok to walk home when she starts year 5. It wouldn't be to an empty house though.

kimlo · 06/09/2019 20:00

do you live further away than the average pupil?

How did they manage to put in referal to ss at home time and the social worker be at yours by 4? It must have been a pretty urgent referal, what was it they said to them?

Choice4567 · 06/09/2019 20:03

I don’t understand, why did they send the letter out if they didn’t mean it? Did absolutely no one else give permission for their child?

Soontobe60 · 06/09/2019 20:10

A child in Year 4 could be as young as 8 years 1 week. Could have additional needs. Could have no road safety awareness. Can't honestly see why you didn't pick him up.

MrPickles73 · 07/09/2019 08:32

Tbh our daughter age 8 could walk home safely on her own if we lived closer to the school. Most people are raising total snowflakes these days. If they wrote asking if anyone would walk home why is she now making a fuss that someone is walking home? FFS. in our village lots of lazy parents drive the 100m to school.practically running over the parents who do walk! I would love them to walk!

NerrSnerr · 07/09/2019 08:37

How far is the walk home? How many roads does he cross? Is there an adult there when he gets home?

SnuggyBuggy · 07/09/2019 08:39

I knew loads of 8 year old who walked to school when I was young. It isn't healthy to baby people. Does the head have specific concerns about your DS, either in himself or the route home?

Gladimnotcampinginthisweather · 07/09/2019 08:40

I am amazed that your LA has a social worker to follow this up!

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HandsOffMyRights · 07/09/2019 08:50

Sounds like there is more to this than meets the eye.

Is it a long walk across busy roads, does your son have additional needs, is he going back to an empty house)?

We lived about 25 mins walk away from our school across a busy road and cut throughs. At 8 mine could not have done this. If we'd lived nearer and on a main route that wasn't secluded then yes.

NerrSnerr · 07/09/2019 08:59

I am amazed that your LA has a social worker to follow this up!

Depends what the headteacher's actual concern is.

Pud2 · 07/09/2019 10:49

The fact that a social worker turned up shows that there is far more to this story. The headteacher is responsible for your child when they are in their care and if they have any safeguarding concerns then they are absolutely right to refuse to release your child to walk home alone. The fact that the HT followed your child home shows how concerned they are. Social services do not act which such immediacy unless there are serious safeguarding concern.

Alwaysgrey · 07/09/2019 10:52

Is there a back story?

LolaSmiles · 07/09/2019 10:53

I can't help but feel there's more to this.

Social services are stretched to their limit so I'm amazed they had someone free who just happened to call in.

Equally schools and head teachers have enough to do without checking children walk home safely.

Theres some missing information here.

SnuggyBuggy · 07/09/2019 11:03

I have a feeling there might be a drip feed

reefedsail · 07/09/2019 11:48

This amount of professional time does not get put into an average 8yo taking an average walk home from school. Definitely more to this.

keepingbees · 07/09/2019 12:19

This makes no sense. They said they could walk home from year 4, which is also the policy in a lot of schools. Is your son SEN so they think he's not capable or do you live a long way from the school or on a dangerous route?

bloated1977 · 07/09/2019 12:23

There's got to be more to this or a back story. Getting social services input is extremely hard (I work in education so know)

missyB1 · 07/09/2019 12:24
Hmm