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Should I bother complaining about Headteacher?

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dawn932 · 06/09/2019 19:14

My son has just gone back as Year 4 student this year. Late in Year 3 the school advised that if parents give permission children in Yr 4 would be allowed to walk home. I emailed in the school holidays to give my permission, and have just had the week from hell with not only my son's class teacher but then the Headteacher contacting me every day haranguing me to change my mind and telling me that he should not be allowed to walk home on his own. Far more was said by them, and I have had to defend my decision at every turn. They have stressed me out to the point I sent a letter to the headteacher outlining my reasons and saying that the school should at least let my boy try before they say he is not capable of walking by himself. Obviously the headteacher didn't like this as she sent it to Social Services. This was after the last harassing telephone call, where I insisted the send my son home. The headteacher felt it her right to follow my son all the way home and knock on our door and question him, this was yesterday. Today after school he walked all the way home, was home at approx. 3.40. At approx. 4pm I had a Social Worker on the door as the headteacher referred my son to them. I couldn't believe it. As it is he was a very sensible person. He actually had already asked the headteacher things like what were her actual concerns, did ds look both ways and use all available crossings to which she had to say yes, her concern was that he didn't know what number house he lived in, however he came straight in and locked the door behind him, until she knocked. Do you think I am right to be dismayed that this head hasn't anything better to do than follow my son home, and more from my point of view harassing me to the point of not being able to eat, and actually bubbling when I was talking to the Social Worker, she has stressed me so much. I probably sound stupid but it has been really horrible .

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ThePolishWombat · 07/09/2019 12:24

There’s not enough detail here to make a decent judgement on it.
How far do you live from school?
Is an adult home when DS arrives home?
What makes the headteacher think your DS isn’t capable of walking home alone?

The fact that the social worker actually showed up tells me that’s there’s something worth being concerned about?

JoyceDivision · 07/09/2019 12:33

I smell a rat or a drip feed.

Either this is missing a huge back story / bigger picture or it's not quite right

If school had concern re Year 4 walking home their safeguarding leads would deal with it

For a social worker allegedly becoming involved straight away rings big alarm bells.

loutypips · 07/09/2019 12:33

How far is the walk? how many roads do they need to cross? Is the house empty when they get home?

Personally I think that 8 is too young to walk by themselves.

I'm sure if the schools policy to let year 4's walk home and you're being questioned means that the school have more concerns. In that case a safeguarding referral is probably right. Headteachers are really busy, so I'd think that to follow your child home they must've been really concerned.

steppemum · 07/09/2019 13:04

I'm sorry OP, but as others have said, there is something you are not telling us.
If your child has addtional needs, then you and the school should work together to come up with a staged training for him, until you are truly confident he can do it.
If you have done this and school doesn't know, you need to show them. I can imagine their concern if they don't feel he is able to cope.

Gladimnotcampinginthisweather · 07/09/2019 14:11

Nerrsnerr agreed.

ClemDanFango · 07/09/2019 14:16

Why are the school back tracking OP? I’ve they invited parents to give permission for Yr4 why are they concerned about this for your child in particular? Does he have additional needs that make him more vulnerable? What was the outcome with the social worker?

HappyHammy · 07/09/2019 14:18

I think we need more info

Wildorchidz · 07/09/2019 14:19

If this is true then presumably the school have major concerns about the safety and wellness of this particular year 4 child.

Wildorchidz · 07/09/2019 14:20

Wellbeing (not wellness).

CatkinToadflax · 07/09/2019 14:20

My family is known to SS because my elder DS has complex special needs. They have only ever spoken to me on the phone - I know obviously that they do home visits where necessary, but to be available to do an unexpected home visit a few minutes after the referral is put in sounds extremely unusual. I agree that there must be more to this than OP has said as yet.

Applepieco · 07/09/2019 15:38

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youarenotkiddingme · 07/09/2019 16:33

I think we need more information.

What their concerns are (far more said) and if you are home when he gets there ?

On the face of it they are BU because they asked for permission then rescinded it. But I suspect there's more to this?

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