If your dc was in a year group with only 1 potential friend would you consider moving them?

[SparklePrincess]

My dd will be in a class with only 3 other girls in September.Two of these girls are best friends and exclude all others, so that leaves just one possible friend for my dd in her own year group. There is also one girl in the year above she occasionally plays with, but other than that nobody. I have been pushing the friendship with this other girl since learning of the class organization, and they play fine together at our house, but dd is still on her own at school. Dd`s social skills are a bit lacking. I think she may even have mild AS or ADD or something When other children come round to play she often ignores them and does her own thing. At her own birthday party she went off on her own. Its like theres something different, but I cant quite put my finger on it. She has terrible concentration (or lack of) and its difficult to get through to her. If she doesnt want to do something she wont. She has spent the last year pretty much on her own in the play ground if the teacher hasnt organized a buddy for her.
After learning about the class organization for September im now seriously considering moving her to a slightly bigger school with lots more possible friends in the class for her to hopefully have something in common with. Perhaps another school will pick up on any possible needs she may have too? But I also worry that if she acts exactly the same way at another school things will be exactly the same there for her too.
What would you do?

I wish no its a small village school with about 110 pupils at the moment, but people are leaving fast

SparklePrincess

I would actually speak to your GP and ask for a referral to a developmental paediatrician. You think there is something amiss; it is therefore down to you to seek answers. You are yourself acknowledging there may be some sort of difficulty.

The reasons for her lack of concentration and social difficulties need to be investigated further. If she is finding social skills difficult in a small school then she may well find it impossible in a larger school.

If the school also did not spot the fact for two years that she has sight problems then they are certainly not going to pick up on any social difficulties.

Do not assume either that a newly qualified teacher would be more up to date on these issues - they are not because they are not trained to spot such problems.

ATM, im not sure I want dd to have a label tbh. We love her just the way she is.
Have just found out that another girl is leaving dds year group at the end of term. Its a shame because shes a nice girl. I wonder who else is leaving?
Ive actually just been to look at another possible school for dd today. Its a one form entry, so still quite small, & has around 25 in both of my dds year groups. The Headteacher was very friendly & was happy to answer my endless list of questions. They dont have the facilities that the girls current school has in terms of computers & whiteboards, but thats not the end of the world, they can use the PC at home if they need to. It does have a swimming pool though & gets similar results to their current school. If the girls would like to they can do a taster day. Im so undecided about everything at the moment, im not going to jump in feet first. Ideally a year 1 place would come up so they can both move to our very local, very oversubscribed school. Either that or I will hear that some new girls will be joining dds class in september. Reality is though that neither are likely to happen & I will be forced to decide between 2 school runs or moving both girls. What a nightmare