Some of the posts on this thread make me feel physically sick. The sense of entitlement, the looking down your nose at uneducated parents..the ones whose kids aren't bright enough to pass the 11plus. Some of you really should take a look at yourselves and your own uneducated opinions.
Firstly, no one gets the monopoly on hard times. I was a victim of DV. My parents died in my early 20s, I don't have any other family. My eldest DS has never met his father. Not sad enough? Ok then what about the girl on tv who failed her 11plus is a child from an immigrant family whose mum works for minimum wage? Or the boy my DS went to school with, who is a refugee (having seen all manner of horrors in his home country) and taught himself English, which his parents still don't speak?
Lots of people don't have perfect lives. But none of that should stop anyone from seeing the absolute unfairness of the grammar system. And that for every kid with a difficult life it might benefit (bloody few in Bexley due to the massive numbers coming from private school) there's 3 times as many kids not getting that benefit in the non selective school.
Some of the kids at non selectives have nice home lives, some don't. Some have sad back stories and some don't.
But none of those children are inferior to, or in any way less important than, the GS kids. And none of them deserves an inferior education. But that's what they get.
Some of the above posts seem to suggest that it doesn't matter because a better school won't make any difference to the kids who didn't pass the 11plus. Maybe that's the case - I don't agree - but even IF it is, that's still not right is it? I don't want to come over all Dead Poets Society but why aren't we trying to inspire kids rather than it being a race to the bottom? Vocational training makes me uncomfortable - at DSs school they were pushing kids into bricklaying courses at 14. Having barely ensured those kids could read and write.
As for it not mattering to kids if they don't pass the 11plus, the poster who said that very clearly has no first hand experience. I can tell you it really affected my DS. All his peers thought he would pass. I had parents coming up to me after telling me how shocked they were. We told him it wasn't the end of the world and he could do well but we knew that given how bad the local non selective is (worse than Erith School fwiw) that wouldn't happen. I am angry that he and all the kids at his school, Erith School and all the other non selective in Bexley and beyond have been condemned to a second rate education all because of an assessment of their intelligence at 10.
And there is no way to justify that. None.