Parents restricting my revison.

[11122aa]

Are my parents justified in restricting my revision to 10 am to 11.30pm at night. I have important uni exams. I emailed my Uni disability support worker and she defended my parents and said they were justified.

Basically they think I don't get enough sleep. My parrents are convinced that once I graduate I'll go on benefits straight away to pay their keep and then do nothing.

OP, I have read your numerous similar posts and as I recall they have been moved before to Mental Health. In AIBU you're just going to get confused posters telling you you're an adult and should be able to control your own study time.

I got flamed on one of his previous threads for suggesting he stand up for himself so be careful how you thread on this one. *sigh

Hi 111 I don't know your full situation here, but I'm a university lecturer and several things strike me:

1. You getting several issues mixed up and this is not helping. The question of whether the hours you are trying to revise are sensible is a separate matter from whether your parents are being controlling. it sounds as though you (and various posters who have responded) are conflating the two.

2. Your parents should not be controlling you if you are an adult and have capacity to make decisions. If they are preventing you seeing the GP then you need to take action; as an adult you have a right to see a doctor if you feel you need to, without having to disclose why to anyone. If your parents are stopping you from seeing a doctor, then that is abuse.

3. In my professional opinion, you are trying to revise too many hours per day and this will be counterproductive. However, you are an adult and have the freedom to do something which is ill advised if you wish.

4. Please belief me that your entire future does NOT DEPEND ON YOUR DEGREE result this time. It really, really does not. Whatever happens, there will be lots of opportunities AND challenges ahead. Don't imagine that if you don't get the class mark you want you are doomed; that level of pressure is bad for you and it's also just not a reflection of reality. It would be equally bonkers to think that if you do get the class mark you want everything will be plain sailing. But, if you are determined and you want to leave your parents' house you can do so.

5. If anyone you live with ever uses violence against you, hitting you/restraining you whatever, call the police and give evidence against them. That isn't okay for a parent, partner or anybody else.

Your issues run far deeper than revision.

You have been given advice countless times on your many previous threads and yet you choose not to respond to questions that would aid us to give you the advice you claim to seek.

Hi, 11122aa.

I think this time your parents might be right. That sounds like plenty of time to revise, because you need to sleep too.

Good luck with your exams, I hope you do well and feel able to make some changes.

Remember all the advice you had before. You can still go to student services at the uni and ask for help. It won't be easy, but you can do it.

Op why can't you see the doctor when your parents think you are out of the house at uni?

Can you record your parents being awful eg. threatening to call the police if you leave the house so you have the proof you need to get people to believe you?

I'm autistic. I'm a lecturer. My children are autistic. They make their own decisions. Two are at university, not the local one.

Speak to pastoral care at uni about your issues at home, make a GP appointment & tell them what is going on also.